Do you always obey your parents?

@annierose (19148)
Philippines
November 19, 2008 2:51pm CST
When I was little, I used to obey all they want me to do because they say a good child must always obey their parents. But when I grow up, some things changes. It's not all the time, I obey them. I had my first boyfriend when I was at my first year college and my parents told me to break with him. I asked them why do I need to and they said If I want to have boyfriend then I should stop studying. Then I asked again why they are instructing me to stop a relationship which I not find any wrong and they replied that they don't want me to marry at a young age.I find it so unreasonable, that is why I not obey them. I continue the relationship even they are against it.I don't want to break with my boyfriend because we know in ourselves we are not doing anything wrong and aside from that he is not doing anything bad.
15 responses
• India
19 Nov 08
Yes i am always obey my parents because if they will plan something for me than its good for me and if i will do something wrong things than my child will not obey me. . . .
@annierose (19148)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
I got your point but I think sometimes we have to make a decision of our own. It is just one way of being independent by learning how to stand on your own feet.You are such a kind and obedient child. Happy mylotting!
@daceyp (327)
19 Nov 08
i think everyone obeys there parrents when they are younger and its just really when we hit the teenage years that we begin to rebel.its probly bcecause when we are little we tend to look up to our parrents and look to them for guidence.but as we get older we get our own minds.if your happy with your boyfriend and keep your studies up they shouldnt really have any problem with it.its when things begin to slip that itll probly be wrong and youll get the i told you talk.just because you have a boyfriend it doesnt mean that you will marry him and as long as you are happy they should be too.good luck i hope it all goes well for you and your boyfriend
@annierose (19148)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
Thank you for the response. I get your point and I will say it is definitely true.It is because when we are still a child, we are not capable of reasoning and aside from that our mind is not that mature enough to make our own decisions.
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
20 Nov 08
Yeah, except when they seemed unreasonable to me. I've always rebelled when people got to be unreasonable. If I see you're right, I'll follow to a point of excellence. But if you appear to be unreasonable or wrong. I'd be a sluggard.
@anneshirley (1516)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
I am always branded as a head strong child because I always say what I feel and what I don't like and because of this, my parents and I always argue but I do respect them. Even after a heated discussion, I just remain silent when I sense that the argument is going to nowhere. When they say, "we are your parents, we know what's good for you" then it is the end of the argument for me. My parents let us speak what we fell so we won't carry the grudge with us and go astray. They prefer that they know what we feel so they can react to this not us just obeying them then building all the hatred inside until we explode. What I appreciate is, whenever we had an argument, our parents will gather us together, explain their side and shed us some light on why they are doing such things and that they always assure us of their love. Now that I am a grown up, looking back, I always tell people that I won't be here where I am now if it wasn't from my parents who literally have to be very patient with me.
@katrhina23 (1282)
• United States
20 Nov 08
I have always been an obedient child. I never failed my parents.
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
Not that so. Many times i do it my way and it irritates me when my parents would get into mine. I am not a good kid to them. But, I do love them.
@subha12 (18441)
• India
20 Nov 08
I always has obeyed my parents in all respect.in some cases I do feel i should have my say atleast. now i am grown up and in many cases my decission is going to count. I will obviously respect my parents though.
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
You will understand everything when you become a parent someday :) But for now, always try to understand why your parents are acting like that. Do you think they will tell you something that will hurt you? Parents know best for us. If you think you are not doing anything bad, then for me you have the responsibility (not the right, in favor of your parents) to explain to them that they dont need to worry, because you are not going to marry at young age. (well if you can really manage to.) Let them feel comfortable and relaxed that you know what they wanted and you will obey them (not to marry at young age) without breaking up with your boyfriend :)
@vicky30 (4766)
• India
20 Nov 08
I always obey my parents.There are some things they misunderstand about me and give advice.That time i do not listen to them.If they say something that's good for me.I will listen and act that way.
@icegermany (2524)
• India
20 Nov 08
most of the times yes, i obey my parents and when i feel that there is anything wrong or i cant do it and then i tell that i cant follow that. most of the times it happens that we have to listen to our parents and we follow it and sometimes we dont like the thing what they tell us and our opinion on it is something different and we just cant follow that and it has happened to me also but i think it usually happens when we are young and in our study times, but now i am married and it is not that i should not agree for what they tell, i do agree but they themself ask me my opinion about something and we do it this way and it is no point that i have to disobey them but most of the times i agree to my parents and even now or if i have something different in my mind i tell them and everything goes on fine.
• Philippines
20 Nov 08
me...sometimes i obey my parents because in some point their right and i cant dis obey them but if they are to much and against my decision I abide them....Not always parents are right it must be equal in the sense that they understand me..
• India
20 Nov 08
See annie, you should first understand your parents, they are always thinking about you and care the most for you.You said that you are studying college now,pay attention to your studies complete your studies and then give some time for your boyfriend to get some job and settle in his life.Then you bring your boyfriend to your parents,they will surely try to understand your feelings.But dont forget that your parents are most important characters in your LIFE...Cheers
• China
20 Nov 08
Well,i think everybody had or will have this experience.when we were younger,we usually obey our parents.But when we grow up, we have our thought and idea,sometimes we have different opinion from our parents,it is a common phenomenon.We have to learn how to analysis our parents' idea and express our idea.if you think your idea is right,then try to talk them over.
• China
20 Nov 08
Everyone's mind is different.we are adult now.we can choose what can we do and judge ourselves.so i think you are right and i will abet you.
19 Nov 08
When I was just a kid I always obey my parents, because I will be beaten up if I will not obey what the rules in the family and what they want me to do. Until I turned 18, I never had to obey them because they are the ones who obeys me. My mom, never opposed of anything I want to do even I had relationships with different men sometimes but she never say a word, because she said I am mature enough to handle things and especially they are now relying on me with everything in the family.