How do you care a child when getting younger?

My son is 8 years of age and He is a grade 2 student in our barangay. Ever since he did not get a good grade. Thanks.

You have written that your son is only eight years old.In our country we have a slightly different style of upbringing and so you will have to forgive me if some things that I suggest do not suit your style.I am only sharing my thoughts with you.You can take whatever suits you. First of all, you will have to devote more time to his studies.I have [as a mother and a very successful teacher]found by experience with my students that those students that achieve their full potential[they may not even be extraordinarily gifted ] are those where their mother gave all theri attention to the children's studies and emotional needs .He should have friends but these should be other students who are responsible.[ from a middleclass sensible upbringing[whose parents have proper sense of values/not attaching too much of importance to things and trying to live up to the Joneeses.-this while it is difficult to assess , you can just see that his friends are not from families that a re consciously upwardly mobile. You should NOT mention this to your son, but talk to his teacher and see that his section is shifted[if on investigation you find that his friends are slightly undesirable]But the first and foremost thing as I said earlier is the time you devote to his personal development.Get him good books to read[if you can afford them buy them or else get them from a library. Show him those nice pictures and read stories with him.Give him speeling check[dictations and simple arithmetic for practice].Sit with him for more than 2 hours to the exclusion of all your other activities. Tell him that if he is always with his friends you are very lonely and that he is doing a great favour by excluding time for you.Be lavish in your praises when he shows small improvement and tell him that if, with such little effort he could achieve so much within a short time , how much would he be able to do if he really sits for 15 minutes more. Do this steadily and gently without his feeling any pain about it while sitting with him.[Once when I came to know that my son had slipped in his Algebra exam by not scoring hundred percent and had got a 65% I revised my algebra lessons [after 27 yrs of 'out of touch'] and did algebra sums with him everyday for half an hour. In his Board exam he was the topper in Arithmetic.This is just to show you how much our contribution also helps. Try some of these and tell me later if you find any improvement.Keep your expectations low and in tune with his real capabilities, growing up pains and impending adolescence troubles Dicipline him without his feeling the harsh regimentation and be strict where you have to be. Be lenient in soem areas and be strict where his character development would become cause for concern.If he strews htings around do not go bang after him , but ask him to help YOU clear the mess becsuae you find it difficult to do everything on your own eg;'Darling! Mom is tired and I want your help in clearing these things [if they a re a mess created by his books or toys-not your work; he will naturally help you later if you are extraordiarily considerate to him]Ask him to help as much as his sweet little hands would allow. "SPARE THE ROD AND SPOIL THE CHILD IS AN OLD PROVERB". "Spare sweet encouragements and patient nurturing camouflaged in gentle discipline "would spoil the modern child.

Thanks on your advise. I really appreciate it, once again thank you. Coz sometimes I had no time on my child_ coz on my worked. I really appreciate when im read your letter coz Im touched on this. Hopefully_ I can adjust my time towards to my child and work. Best regards,

Hi, I agree on that but not all the times asking money to buy anything_ not important. Sometimes, I felt sad coz I asked on my self if I am correct or wrong. Maybe when getting younger he can understand on me, what if is not. Hope so. Thanks.

Thanks_your advise. I do talked on him what is the value of money and its not easy to earned on this but he did not listened to me on what ive talking about. He always ask money from me to buy anything_not important. He do games after on his class but he going home around 6 to7PM, imagine his class end is 4:30PM. Once again thank you.