For men, which one do you prefer?
November 21, 2008 11:33am CST
I came from a conservative family, but although I know I am free to do things I like, i just have no guts to make the first move as a girl to win a man. I am open though that some woman are courageous enough to tell their feelings and yet ends up positively. For men of yesterday, now and tomorrow, which one do you prefer? A woman who knows how to contain themselves and wait for a man to move or a woman who is brave enough to do the first move instead? and why?
21 Nov 08
I guess you need to tell your feelings through actions. Actions that are enough to send the message but not too much to make him think that you're a flirt. We're not as numb as most ladies think. We do get the message most of the time, we just don't want to assume and it doesn't mean that we don't welcome things like that. I mean who wouldn't want to know that someone likes him or her? Making the first move is ok. Give it a go. At least you can prove to yourself that you've tried.
22 Nov 08
I appreciate you being so understanding, but admit it or not, many of you can't just read the message. What will you do if the girl doing so to you is not your type or you don;t have feelings for her? and that what you are showing is just purely friendships, would you let her fall for more? or what?
22 Nov 08
That one thing i hate doing, turning down ladies. But since i'm not the type who gives false hopes. I make it clear to her through words though not indirectly that i only need friendship and it must stop there. I usually emphasize more on the friendship when we're together. I don't talk much about love or relationships because it might give her an insight that i'm giving her a hint that i want one. It's really difficult to deal but it's better than engaging in a relationship with her but i don't love her right? It would be a lot more unfair to her.
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21 Nov 08
i'm not the kind of person to make the first move into a relationship, not because i'm a woman but just because that's my personality. but even if i was i don't think i'd appreciate guys who thinks that since he's the guy, he has to make the first move and be angry at the girl for taking that from him.