Do you really think you can stop loving someone you loved ?
By ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 21, 2008 12:25pm CST
And if you can ,was it love in the first place.My reason for asking is that many persons think true love shouldnt die and there is nothing that someone you love can do to stop you from loving them.They believe once you love someone you should love them until death and be willing to forgive them forever.Based on this definition ,it means we either have many persons who have faked their love or who have secret love for someone other than present partner insde them.I am comimng to this conclusion base on the number of failed relationships and new ones that form everyday.This means that you have forsaken someone you claimed you love ,or you are lying to the one you now claim to love.
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@cookieweber (316)
• Philippines
21 Nov 08
based on my personal experience, yes you can stop loving a person you've once loved... though this doesn't mean i never loved him to begin with...i was very much in love with my ex husband... but our marriage did not work and despite all my efforts to save it, we simply couldn't be together anymore, so had to let him go...it hurt me deeply, and back then my whole world crumbled...but in time i forgave him and i moved on...we became friends and we both found love in someone else...i realised i didn't love him anymore when i saw him with his girlfriend and instead of feeling pain, i felt peace and acceptance, which surprised me really, but that's just the way it is....so now i am very much in love with my second husband, and i wish that we can stay in love forever....
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@iamfine (740)
• China
22 Nov 08
I don't think during our whole lives, we will only love on person. we may love many persons at a time, it is just that we may love someone especially more than others. Let's call it small love and big love. I think there's no confliction between those small loves and big loves.
Once we break our relations with our ex-s, and establish new relation with new ones, we still can not forget our ex-s, because they are one part of our history, when we remember what happened in the pass, we remember them too. we remember them, doesn't mean that we still love then very much. Our big love for them may become small love in the future.
@beauty_ph (2749)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
Love is not love without actions. For me, loving is a thing I inherit from the love of God. Knowing the love of God, no matter how I get angry with someone I love, I still can't stop loving the person, because in abundance I am receiving love. I think I am like a glass with over flowing water, that I can't stop the flow of water from me because of the supply. That water is love, and there's no stopping in it I should say.
@metschica25 (5399)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I think if you can stop loving them you really never loved them and time heals the break up and hurt . But people from my past i still love just not in that deeper way . what i thought i felt then was just the start of something , ya know . My mom says she still loves her first love .
@anne12d (676)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
Yes anyone can stop loving the person for many reason and one of them is that, they're not working out anymore like different personalities that never bonds and etc. It's not faking their love to their ex partner, at some point they loved that person but for some circumstances they cant continue loving each other and better off separated.
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@suzzy3 (8342)
•
21 Nov 08
I think some people fall in love with love.The early days of heady love and desire end eventually and they need that feeling again and are not prepared to work at it through the good and bad and even swful times, there have been times when my husband and I could not stand the sight of one another.I hated him and he did not want to come home,we always said it was because of our son that we stayed together but I think it was shear stuborness on both sides not to give in and throw it all away. You have to be prepared to go through these times as well as the good, really good and the amazinig times together.Anyway to get back to your original question yes it is, but maybe it was not true love in the first place like I said fall in love with love and rush in without thinking.
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@chutchins21 (2)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I think that you are both getting off topic and just thinking here of love as something that must be sought after. This is not something that is always the case. Yes I agree that you can fall in love without thinking. Even though your writing is a little disjointed, that is what I feel you say you did. I feel that if you use this reckless way of thinking than yes, it is possible to fall in love and then forget about it just as easily in the next blink of an eye. But, true love, is when someone has built a relationship with someone over an amount of time. There is no blindness of just rushing into it. When you learn to respect and spend time with someone, real love can develop. Once you have this, no matter how bad the situation or what happens afterwords, there is no turning back.
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
22 Nov 08
I think both you (Suzzy ) and cutchins are saying the same thing that love goes far beyond the heady superficial ,suggary sweet feelings you intilaly get.It takes hard work and in all fairness cutchin,Suzzy did mention this ,did you read what she wrote ,it was well thought through and based on practical experience.I see a constant theme through her discussion ,not sure where you see the disjoint and if you do point it out to her then ,so she may correct it .We are all gere to learn from each other .
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@annjilena (5618)
• United States
22 Nov 08
love can die it has to be culivated and nourished to stay alive.we have to find refreshment in our relatioship with others.love is give and take love is my things.think of people who has been married for many years they culivated the love they shared all these years.they forgive each other and nourished that love they shared if they did not do this it will die of starvation.
@chantalgiardina (2523)
• United States
22 Nov 08
i dont think that you can stop loving someone if you at one point truly loved them. i think true love lasts forever even if you are not with that person. true love is unconditional and everlasting.
@mengrufa (239)
• China
22 Nov 08
But for me , if someone i love have done something that more than i can stand, i will out the question leave her, for i don't want to live with the one once betrayed me. The "betray", i meant is something that she shouldn't have done , but she have. I a person with true reality, and always tend to make friends with the people who are treat me well. And i will treat him well if they are my really good friends, this is the reality.
