Tired of listening to somebody?

hello madam, well i feel like i am a poor speaker that is why i prefer not to speak a lot and so other people took me as a listener, so they keep on speaking and i have to listen. my voice is not to loud and when while having discussion which grew and become heated argument, i always have to back off. not because i am wrong, but because my friends voice is too loud kind of shouting and my voice is non hearable. anyways i too don't like shouting and fighting rather i like listening to other and gave them my openion, as they say wise people speak less, so i am always there for my friend, they came to me for suggestion and i gave them my point. and i never tired listening to anyone...

Listening to somebody may get tired and irritated to somebody. Like in your case I have been experienced that too when I was in college and I almost closed my door ever since I saw him in my doorstep. Tired of listening to his sentiments and I don't even take his crying effects. But today as I grew old and matured enough I never to become irritated to those who would like to confide their feelings and emotions. As they go with me and telling their problems I am now open to give them advice as long as I can. And to the extent of my help I will help them being their shoulder to cry on but with limitations because there is somebody who will take it for granted.

Yes. Even strangers at bus stops want to tell me their whole life story without taking a breath :) I only had one good friend (she is deceased now) who could listen as well as talk. Those are the best friends to have I think. It makes you feel unimportant when no one takes any time to listen to you when you have been their shoulder many times. I would like to have a friend like that again ... they are few and far in between. I have an extra ear if you need one. :)

I have often been told that I am a good listener but I don't know that I am. I, too have had 'friends' who's only conversation consisted of a litany of their problems. Now I am a fixer, so when anyone starts telling me their problems I try to help them find solutions. The ones that really bother me are the ones that dismiss out of hand any suggestions they are given. People who only want to talk about their problems to the exclusion of anything else don't necessarily need a friend. They need a therapist.

I will say No, yes friend you know one thing that to be a listner is greate quality but I also know that every thing as its two side like wise this quality also and I am sure u are talking about its bad side ,so friend I think just look and think other side of coin , and I am again sure you will definetly overcome from this issue ...:-)

I do feel the same way too. A close friend of mine keeps on talking about her problems everytime we're together that I could just memorize everything. When I would have something to share, she doesn't take it seriously then would turn the topic back to what she wants to talk about. It is just all about herself.

[i]Hi lovelyvelle, I experienced that also and I am even panning not to entertain my friend anymore since she can talk 3 to 4 hours with her problems and it's almost like everyday...I used to tell her to just pray and to find ways to solve it but I do know, maybe she just love to talk and talk... I am not that type, whenever I have problem, I pray and ask GOD for guidance and will try to find ways to solve it![/i]

I know I am a good listener but I hate friends who prefer to be listened at but refused to listen to me when it's my turn seeking for the listener in them.

I absolutely agree with you onthat. I have this one friend who rambles on and on about men, I mean everytime she call me she is talking about a man she met or a man is coming to see her and I get tired of that. She nevers stop to ask me how I am doing or if I say something about myself or a problem I am having it like she comment on it and go back to taking about the men again. I just got so I do not call her alot, but she call me and I dread that.

HI FRIENDS To be a good speaker ,one has to be a good listener.I do talk lessbut i have across who always want others to listen to them,they bother to listen to others.They care about their own problems and feelings. Though they do this to me,i still listen to their feelings,because i am empathetic towards others.It gives peace to the person ,who expresses their grief and i patiently listen to them.Because life is too short to keep up with any kind of rivals.I always help people,who need me. Bye!!!!!!!

Hi, lovelyvelle. we have similar experience. There was a man who called me and telling me everything he experience, and I really get tired of that. He told me details of his family condition, his growing up experience, everythin. The first time I heard about that, I would feel pathetic about his experience, but latter on, he keep calling me and tell me his other experience and sometimes repeat. So one day I told him not to call me any longer and refuse to accept his phone call whenever he called latter. My point is, usually people would rather listen others talking about something that is cheerfull than something that get us depress or frustrated. I hate those guys who always complaining like their life is always dark. So often, I would avoid to sociate with this type of person.

I think you are right ,everybody have their own problems, you aslo need someone listen to your problem. someone who just ask help from you ,and don't care you what you are thinking about ,whether you need the help from them.I think I aslo will tired to these things.

I like to use a give and take system. I'm extremely patient but you're right sometimes it gets to be too much. I like to do little things that make people feel appreciated so that they can see that not everything is bad for them but a lot of the time people just need someone to listen to them so they can rationalize how to fix the problem themselves but in turn the listeners need someone to vent to as well or we'll go crazy right? ;o)

It seems a horrible thing to say, but I'm also tired of listening to someone. At first, you're happy and honoured if people tell you personal stuff, it's a sign they trust you very much. But there's this friend of mine, I got to know her last year, living in the same dorm (well, I'm not quite sure that's the same here in Belgium as it is in America or something, but never mind, both having a room in the same building), we took the same classes, became good friends. But she had problems, her father passed away 6 years ago, she sometimes had sad days because of that, then she didn't do very well on January exams, so changed her major after our first year, her mother had an infarct in summer (totally recovered now), her boyfriend finished their relationship,... She had to move (can only stay 2 years in my dorm), but we regularly eat together, see eachother. Everytime though, she's always talking about her problems, or people she's met, her new studies and so on, and everytime I'm telling something, she doesn't seem to listen, she forgets things I told her that were important to me, so at the moment I'm kind of fed up, I'm tired of listening while she doesn't listen to me!

I try to be a good listener, but some people just need too much support for me to deal with them alone. I have a special skill set, for helping disabled people become independent (and I love to that), but it's a ton of work and often thankless.

i probably did. i cant remember. just stay busy. and make sure u forget ur cell phone in the house when u leave the house so u miss their calls. if u seem busy, maybe they will give up and find someone else.

Yup, it can get me really tired and sometimes depressed, to be listening to the same stuff over and over again from the same person. The problem with this type of people is that, they just want to talk; they are not listening to you. No matter what advice you offer them, they will tell you it won't work. I once gave someone a piece of my mind, when this happened too often - I told him that he didn't want to listen - he just wanted to talk over and over the same subject; so maybe I should get him a tape recorder that he can talk to?

I know exactly what you mean! My one friend, we were really close at one time, but now I just can't take it anymore. She just has so much drama & she is always so loud about it! You get on the phone with her & she barely even asks how I am, she just jumps right into who she's mad at this week or who did or said what blah blah blah! It is so annoying! I can't take it anymore. I hardly ever talk to her anymore. I just tell her I am busy, which I am, but why would I want to sit there & listen to her s#%^ all the time! The last time we went there for dinner she got so loud she woke my baby daughter up! She's not used to people being loud like that around her! I was so mad! Haven't hung out with them since! And she wonders why her family doesn't talk to her & thinks she's nuts. I agree with them!!

I'm tired of listening to somebody's complains if he does it all the time. I have a frend who is like that though. and I want to just tell her to shut up sometimes. I need something new.

I would not change my number I would just block them or you can just tell them to stop calling you