how would you deal with a friend like this?
November 21, 2008 10:46pm CST
i have a friend who is very close to me. We've been friends since we were in college until now. She gets irritated whenever I have a suitor. She turns him down and starts to argue with him causing him not to accompany me whenever my friend is around. I have observed that not just once, but then i don't have the courage to tell her that because i'm afraid our friendship will get ruined. What will I do? Why do you think she's like that?
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22 Nov 08
This is a very difficult situation. It sounds like she's hinting at you to pick between friendship with her or an intimate relationship with another person. I think she is like that because once you have a suitor, you won't spend as much time with her and you will drift apart as friends. One of my former friends was like that. She had a friend who had a boyfriend that she started arguments a lot with too. I think you just have to calmly tell her that her friendship with you is important, but that the other relationships in your life are important too. If she is truly your friend, she will understand.
22 Nov 08
communication is what all friends need to have. we do trust and love our friends but if commuication is absent, everything will fall off from its place. I think it would be best if you tell your friend how you really feel. The more you hide your feelings about her atittude would just ruin your friendship. Maybe she feels jealous thinking that you might forget her once you will have someone else. If she feels that way, assure her not by just words but also actions that no matter what she will always be your friend and you to her.