Where Angels and Wolves Fear To Tread

@wolfie34 (26791)
United Kingdom
November 22, 2008 7:57am CST
I did something brave, or which I considered brave yesterday and I am quite chuffed at myself for being so strong, the risk factor wasn't that high admittedly but the fact that I actually drove to the area where I used to live, where I lived with my ex made me feel happy! I went to spend a day with a wonderful friend who I met at college, I haven't seen her since I escaped my ex and that was last October, well over a year! We still text'd each other but it wasn't the same, she was missing me and I was missing her, so yesterday I finally agreed to drive over to see her The drive wasn't a long one, although the traffic was busy and I did get a few butterflies in my stomach when I saw the road leading off to where I used to live! It was great catching up and we went to see a film together, went for a meal afterwards and I went back to see her family afterwards and was warmly welcomed, I didn't leave till 10pm last night! I promised her I wouldn't leave it so long next time and I was happy that I had conquered my fear of going back to my old haunt! Is there a place that holds bad memories for you and have you ever had the courage to go back or have you vowed never to set foot in the place again for fear of bumping into someone you hate or fear?
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Hi ya wolfie34 Well done, I am sure it couldn't have been easy for you. I know better than most what it feels like but you know something that your friend could also come and visit you too! Now you have done it, it won't feel so bad the next time and it will get easier. I have only been back there twice in the two years it has been for me but it is a good 5 hours drive from here so that is probably why I haven't been more often, people can always come and visit me too.
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
She hasn't been driving for long my friend and has only just passed her test and got her car so hasn't been on a motorway! She even paid for me to get into the cinema as I had driven over and it had benefits I faced my fear and beat it and that boosted my confidence because I was strong enough to do it!
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@Humbug25 (12551)
23 Nov 08
Sorry wolfie I wasn't having a dig at your friend and her reasons are justified! It gets up my nose that my friends don't make as much effort as I do that's all!!
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
I didn't see it as a dig my friend, you know me! But I know where you are coming from, sometimes it can be all one sided and it takes TWO to make a friendship!
• India
23 Nov 08
Congratulations, my dear wolf!! Glad you had a great time with your friend. Places are not bad actually; just the memories are. Well, the place I live in right now is actually full of bad memories for me. I tried running away from it all and was away from Mangalore (my hometown) for nearly a year. Then I decided to come back and decided to live here no matter what. Things are getting along fine and the past hardly matters anymore. You see, the past actually has no power over us. :) Cheers and happy mylotting
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
Can't do anything about the past, it's gone! It's part of you, today and tomorrow is what counts, moving on, not backwards, the past cannot hurt me and by facing my fears I am proving this!
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
23 Nov 08
Hello dear wolfie. I am so glad that you overcame your fear of meeting your ex where angels and wolves fear to tread. Yeah, there is always something in our life that spoils as well as enlightens our normal life, but so long as we can overcome it, there is nothing for us to fear. It is nice to know that you had a wonderful day yesterday. May such wonderful days follow you as always!
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
It certainly made me feel stronger and happier, friends are very important in our life and I wasn't going to let my ex destroy my friendship, time to move on! Thank you friend
@Opal26 (17686)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hey wolfie! Nice going! I'm very proud of you! That was a very brave thing that you did! I know how difficult it was for you to go back there and I understand why it was. But, nevertheless you overcame your fear and you did it anyway! Why should you stay away from your friend? You have every right to be there! I have been in similar circumstances like that too and I know how it feels! But you can't let that dread of someone or something stop you from being with someone you really care about! And you didn't and you had a good time and that's what is most important! And now you know that you can do it again and nothing will stop you! Congratulations for taking a very big step forward! And yes it was a very big step!
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
Nothing to fear but fear itself! Now I have no worries about going over there again! My friendship is important and she has been a wonderful friend to me, I admire her, I mean how many 21 year old girls want to bother with a 37 year old man?
@kellyjeanne (1576)
• United States
22 Nov 08
I really enjoyed reading about your day, wolfie, and I'm very glad that you were able to conquer your fears and have a great day as a result! Purrs, Catwoman=^..^= & Mija
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@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 08
Catwoman purrs, Wolfie growls, but growls with happiness ;0)
@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 08
Sweetie I am so glad that you managed to get over that and that you had a great Day to Love and Hugs xxxx
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 08
My friendship means too much to let my fear ruin it! Hugs to you and Gissi xxx
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@gabs8513 (48710)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 08
I am so glad about that Wolfie you have come a long way Sweetie and I am so proud of you xxxx
@suzzy3 (8352)
22 Nov 08
well done you ,it was a brave thing to do.I cannot say it has ever happened to me,so good on you it seems like you are moving on after a bad time.xx
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
22 Nov 08
My ex doesn't control me any more and I proved that yesterday, thank you my friend!
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@suzzy3 (8352)
22 Nov 08
Good my friend.x
@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Yes, there are a few places that I have no desire to ever see again. Just sad memories and noone I fear but just would have a sickening feeling, if I saw them again, like a major sad feeling. Good for you to see your friend and have a wonderful time. Life has to go on! Bravo for the Wolfie!
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
Can't do anything about the past, just accepting it and moving on, you can't stop your future because of the past, I need to practice that more!
@amanda333 (739)
• France
22 Nov 08
Well done wolfie you've made the first step, i hope you have many more happy days ahead
@wolfie34 (26791)
• United Kingdom
23 Nov 08
Amen to that my friend!
@balasri (26549)
• India
28 Dec 08
I am happy that you pocked up a missed friendship.You must be happy and proud.Well I haven't faced this situation in my life so far.
@ronaldinu (12439)
• Malta
12 Dec 08
I don't have a fear of going to certain places. Thank god I did not have such bad experiences in relationships. I am glad that you got over it.