Love him, love his dog?

@youless (98980)
Guangzhou, China
November 22, 2008 8:45am CST
Are you this type of person? I think it needs to be understanding and considerate if you do love him. So if you love him, you shall accept something from him which you don't like. For example, my husband likes spicy food. I will try to get used to it and like it, too
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
24 Nov 08
Hi youless...Yes marriage is ful of compromise,and very often its the wives who has to make more adjustments,to keep the harmony at home intact.I never drank tea before marriage,but my husband likes tea .So I have automatically become a tea drinker too to save me the bother of making tea and coffee separately all the time......And I dont regret it too......
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Nov 08
I think it depends on. When I give in to my husband, actually he also changes himself because of me. For example, he will go to eat the pizza with me although he is not so interested in it
@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
24 Nov 08
I agree youless...I love to eat Chinese food once in awhile,and even though my hubby doesnt much care fo it,he takes me to Chinese restaurants,and keeps me company.....
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• United States
24 Nov 08
Well, I guess that's why you are happily married and I am happily single.I don't like dogs That much. If a guy I like has a dog, then we would just see less of each other because I won't be there With his dog. I Know his dog will come first so he can have us both in his life but not together.When it comes to food, that is soo much easier. If he likes spicy food and I don't, we can pick a restaurant that has a menu that fits us both.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Nov 08
As long as you feel happy, who care it's married or single. In fact when you are single, you look forward to get married. But after you get married, you want to be single
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• United States
24 Nov 08
I have no desire to marry so I guess I never will want to be single while I am married.
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• Philippines
21 Mar 09
Yes I think so but at the moment, I like the same things with my bf... He's a bit lazy but thats oka y since we are going to clean up together...I need to find out what are the other things that I might don't like about him
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Mar 09
I think this is because he has a diligent girlfriend
@Jezebella (1446)
• United States
20 Mar 09
I think when it comes to understanding and loving a person you have to accept something that they like that you don't. The man I am seeing is into the Dungeons and Dragons scene and sure that's not something I am into, but I am not going to call it quits for that. I accept him for it and it is something he likes to do...who I am to say it won't accept him for it. There are things about me that I am sure he doesn't like and I would want him or anyone else to accept me for them and love me despite having things they don't like.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Mar 09
Thanks for your response.
@kekexinfeng (1303)
• China
24 Nov 08
I think may be,if we love each other,we should love the right and the wrong.but it not mean we let the bad habits go,we should help him to change the bad habits,though it is hard to change,but we should have a try.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Nov 08
It's very good.
@sanzi1201 (644)
• China
24 Nov 08
Of course.Or,you will often quarrel for this habbits.You will not happy/ So,love him,love his dog is a good mind.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Nov 08
Thanks for your response.
• India
23 Nov 08
LOL!! Love his dog, yes, but he ought to take full responsibility for feeding his dog, bathing it, taking it to the vet, and training it. If he expects me to do the dirty work, while calling himself the dog lover, I think I wouldn't have much to do with him. Spicy food ok...provided he lets me eat the not so spicy food. I don't believe "love" means transforming yourself for the other. If the other can't accept you as you are and wants you to adopt his or her likes and tastes, then it is not love. It is old-fashioned arranged marriage. Cheers and happy mylotting
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
Very interesting to see it
@roniroxas (10574)
• Philippines
23 Nov 08
well maybe that is the reason why i am still single (or loveless lol) although i got separated from my husband 7 years ago. as you know i have four children and to love me is of course to accept them as well. not as their own but even just as friends. i dont like to have tensions between me and from the person i will have relation with. so i can say i think i am that type of person.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
At least you have four cute children who love you. There is love around you, my dear friend
@polachicago (19073)
• United States
23 Nov 08
At some point you are right. I wouldn't change my diet for someone, but I would like his animals. If not, I would consider not to be with him.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
Thanks for your response.
@mengrufa (239)
• China
22 Nov 08
Hi, this is an interesting discussion. i do agree with you, when i love or admire a person , i then can't tell the difference between right or wrong, even i know he or she is not wright, bur i think that is not so important. Or when he or she hurt me, i will not feel unhappy, i will forget it and forgive them soon instead. Good luck, welcome to visit me.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
There is a funny saying here. Your wife is always right. If she is wrong, then follow the first rule
@dean1953 (19)
• India
22 Nov 08
Thanks for sharing.My husband doesn't like spicy food, but i do. I make sure the food i cook is not too spicy.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
You try to give in, that means to say you really love your husband
@aseretdd (13736)
• Philippines
22 Nov 08
I partially agree... if you love the person... then you should accept something in/from him that you do not like... but that does not mean you need to love it too.... my husband also loves spicy food... and i don't... but i did not force myself to eat or love spicy food... and i do not forbid or hinder him in eating what he loves to eat...
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
In fact I have many difference between my husband. I think it's not a force to like what he loves. It's just a try. If you haven't tried, then you will not know you like it, too
@williamjisir (22900)
• China
22 Nov 08
Hello youless. Love him, love his dog. Yeah, this is what we often say. I am in favor of this saying, but I don't completely follow it if my lover has something that needs to be improved on her side. Instead I will let her know about it for the improvement. Good night, youless.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
Of course we can't always listen and follow to our partners. When there is a disagreement, just try to discuss it in peace
@bombshell (11265)
• Germany
22 Nov 08
correctand even we dont like it we need to try it.who knows after trying we like it right? remember love and acceptance is always aplly in the relationship.
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@youless (98980)
• Guangzhou, China
23 Nov 08
I agree with you.