Ladies this question is for you
By sharone74
@sharone74 (4837)
United States
November 22, 2008 2:27pm CST
Have you ever "dumbed yourself down" for a guy? You know acted like you are less intelligent than you really are so that the guy that you wanted wouldn't be intimidated or scared away by your intellect? Did you get the guy? Once you got him did you like him? And did you ever reveal your blazing intelligence to them down the road after you were together? What happenened?
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4 responses
@sid556 (30953)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I am blonde and so I get an abundance of the "blonde" jokes & comments and always have. Many of them I earn. I can admittedly be pretty darn ditzy. Still, there is a huge difference between ditzy and uneducated and absolutely no common sense. I have never dumbed myself down for a man and never felt a need to. If a man feels threatened by my intellect then he is more than likely not someone that I need to be with anyway. I'm not a genius so I don't know as any man has ever felt threatened. I have had more men feel threatened by my independence. I also don't pretend to be fragile & needy to make them feel more manly. Many men have been surprised when they get to know me that I'm not the "dumb blonde" they imagined I was but I don't think any of them felt threatened or bothered by it at all.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
25 Nov 08
They should be pleasantly surprised. The only time that I have ever dumbed myslf down intentionally is when I am working in gentleman's clubs where intimidating guys with your blazing intelligence is the least appreciated. In the past I have known my share of "ditzy blondes" only to find that 1 on 1 they were some of the most clever and resourceful chicks around.
@srbollar (259)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I have. We didn't date; he was just a guy I was interested in. I had been making jokes that he didn't understand and using "complex" analogies and metaphors. He didn't get it at all. So I played the part of haha-i-don't-know-what-it-means-either for a while. It didn't work out. At one point I realized the whole thing was superficial. I felt self conscious and I didn't think he liked me for who I was at all. In the end I was mad at him and at myself. We're not even friends anymore. I don't think it's good idea. Don't do it!
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I don't do this, if a man can't love all of me from my looks, to my mind, and to my life, if he can't love every single part to borrow a hood phrase. "He can't get in where he don't fit in." i have absolutely no objection to accepting him however he comes as long as he is neither an axe murderer or a woman beater.
@rmuxagirl (7548)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I can't say that I have. I am proud of my intelligence and a guy should accept that I am as smart as I am and love me because of it. My current boyfriend loves that I am smart because we can have indepth intellectual conversations.
@sharone74 (4837)
• United States
25 Nov 08
Many girls do this because they understand or think they understand that men don't really want to know if their girl is smarter than them. By the way I have a sixteen year old daughter named Calais, whose birthday is this Thanksgiving.
