Do you judge people by the way they look?

November 23, 2008 10:17am CST
My Dad,both brothers and one of my sisters will judge people based on the way they look,and how much they weigh. They will think less of a person if they do not think that they are attractive,no matter how nice or kind they are and they will be extra nice to someone that they do think is pretty. I don't have the best bunch of qualities but i can honestly say I am not shallow. If a person is nice to me I will be nice to them,it is that simple. What about you? Are you shallow? Do you dislike shallow people? Do you knwo anyone else that is shallow? How do you deal with them?
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@eshaan (6193)
• India
23 Nov 08
No i dont judge on the looks, for me...i feel that there are some frequencies working between people, some may look so normal but we feel too much like talking ot them. Some are very beautiful and attractive in looks but i wont feel like talkimg to them...so it depends..
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23 Nov 08
I agree,some people you just don't want to talk t because they are so horrible even if people think that they are beautiful.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Many people would not admit it but I think most people judge you based on the way that you look. Think about it prior to actually getting to know a person what else do you have to go on? Like it or not usually your personality is revealed in the way that you look. If you find a person that in appearance they are unkept and dirty, most likely their home, care and office look they say way. Normally that person will not have the best organizational skills. If a person shows little interest in themselves or their belongings, they will most likely have the same don't care attitude with yours. If you automatically eliminate people based solely on the way that they look, I think thats something totally different. I think that would be considered shallow. "Pretty" or "attractive" is clearly in the eye of the beholder.
23 Nov 08
but looks can be deceiving.
@relundad (2311)
• United States
23 Nov 08
Of course! The point is that we are both judged and judge by what we are presented. No getting around it. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, most times its a duck! My question is still the same in the BEGINNING, what else do you have to go on? Are you telling me that you have never seen a person on the street that looked a certain way, and you did not come to some conclusions in your mind about certain things about that person? Or are you one of those people that unless the man has a sign that reads "homeless" that you assume that he just likes wearing the same dirty clothes for months at a time, or that he is begging for money for the hell of it? It has nothing to do with whether he is nice or not! The point is that at first sight most people are going to make some assumptions. Will they tell you that? No! Because they think it makes them shallow, it doesn't, just makes you observant.
@jackiew (915)
• Canada
23 Nov 08
No,I never judge people by the way they look.Like the saying goes"You cannot judge a book by its cover" People are people, no matter how they look or how much they weigh.I am the type of person who speaks to anyone.
23 Nov 08
Good for you, you cannot tell anything about a person just by looking at them. I am glad that there are still some people out there that are not shallow.
• United States
23 Nov 08
Hi! In answer to your question, the answer is NO (or I don't judge people by the way they look). I have met good-looking men and women who are not very comely (or friendly). The attraction value suddenly diminishes, so instead of a positive feeling , there would be a negative feeling instead. There are plain-looking people who suddenly become beautiful in our eyes when they radiate through their smiles. I am sorry to say that it is indeed shallow to just look at something that is skin-deep. I sort of dislike shallow people so I don't normally go out with anybody who just looks at people's appearance. Happy myLotting!
23 Nov 08
Agreed, I dislike shallow people too.