Would you have a problem being a "Stay home dad'
By ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 23, 2008 12:13pm CST
Or would this be an another major inroad that females are making into the institutions primarily controlled by men .Is this blasphemy for me to just be thinking along these lines ,apron ,ladle in hand ,children in tow,is something wrong with that picture or the modern man wouldnt find that strange just me and my neanderthal views
There are however people both male and female who would never entertain this argument.They believe the roles have been defined and any attempt to modify is an attempt to either emasculate the male or masculate the female,niether by itself is a desired option.They argue that a man who stays at home and takes care of the home ,does laundry ,cook and so on is loosing in his place in society and the the respect which is his birthright.They think pretty soon his woman and friends will loose respect for him and eventually his children.
Some men though, have no problem with this notion of being taken care of by a woman but they dont find the idea of housework very appealing either .They dont mind the money but not the house work.Usually these are young men who dont like to work and hook up with older women who find the idea of a younger man very enticing.
There are a few men who are "modern' or unorthodox enough to really enjoy being a stay home dad.These men really enjoy these chores and may or may not be effeminate,they just love taking care of their children and take pride in their homes.
Where do you weigh in on this issue ?
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
23 Nov 08
I think that a man takes care of a leaky faucet or pipes, that a man makes the fire, and that a man fixes the cars, and broken toys, kitchen utensils, etc. A man works for a living, but a female should stay home, cook, clean and take care of the kids. This isn't to say that a man should not also help with cooking (grilling) or the occasional taking care of the kids, but I honestly think the man's duty is to be the bread winner.
I also have a modern approach though. My fiance and I both want to stay at home and work, and I plan to use some of the older things ladies did, and make money from it. Crocheting for instance, I want to learn how to do this so that I can make money, and my fiance and I both use mylot. I want to eventually get where we don't use the computer at all and that I make money for us...
Women should stay at home, but that doesn't mean men can't either.
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@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
24 Nov 08
I like your views ,they are very balanced .You embrace the traditional views, the stay at home concept but you balance that with modern approach of using the internet while staying at home.I wonder if many women who are anti-traditionalist realize this is an excellent hybrid of the two philosophies .
I was particularly impressed by your desire despite being a modern woman for deeply traditional arts like crocheting.This is an artform I remember my mother doing and is often associated with house maid in aprons not housewives around a computer.This shows me that you are comfortable in your skin and not afraid to go against the popular grain of feminist rhetoric.
Continue being an individual,I am sure you will make your husband very happy as you find the many benefits to staying at home.
