Do you hate it when someone compare you to others?
By Curlann
@annierose (19234)
Philippines
November 23, 2008 4:52pm CST
I can say that one of the things I hate about is being compared with other people. Being compared with my sisters, classmates and friends.When I am together with my sisters, people are usually asking that why is I do not look like my sisters. My sisters have a brown complexion and good height while me is just having a small height and white complexion.They have black hair and eyes while me is having a brown hair and eyes.They also always ask who is much younger or older.My parents sometimes also compare me with other people. I can say that I devote more of my time with books and I am so busy with my studies when I was still a student. They are always noticing that behavior and asks me why is it I am always busy with my books while our neighbor who is my classmate still finds time to play and chat with her friends.They said that they think that classmate of mine can still manage her time wisely than me.When I got my first boyfriend when I was in college, they also ask me to break up with him because they are afraid I will be like my cousin who marries early when she got a boyfriend.
I am so fed up with those comparisons. Why is it they cannot understand that "it is me." . I am different from others. I have my own likes and dislikes. God gave me this physical appearance.I am different from them because I am not them. I am myself and I want to be myself.
Do you experience same also as me?
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8 responses
@intari (190)
• Indonesia
9 Feb 09
it's bore situation. but u don't tied yourself to play with your friends. just ignoring every comparisons. build your own social life.it's good to u if you devote more your time with books and studied.reach your dream higher. be someone that is you. someday they all know u and stop comparing u. good luck and keep be yourself.
@annierose (19234)
• Philippines
9 Feb 09
Thanks for inspiring advice.I agree with what you said here. Happy mylotting :)
@eynjel05 (444)
• Philippines
3 Feb 09
I believe that all of us were created as a unique individuals, that no one can ever say he/she is similar to another person. Maybe for some instances like we do have some similarities with our attitude to someone. But comparing us to other people? I think its not a good practice.
I personally dont compare my friends or love ones to others because sometimes we can get hurt someones being compared to's feelings when we did that.
Sometimes my mom did that when shes mad at me. Shes comparing me with my cousins achievements and ofcoures I get hurt with that and I personally tell that to her.
Sometimes its not our intention to hurt someone by comparing them to others but for us to avoid such, lets try not to do such.Happy posting!
@dpk262006 (58675)
• Delhi, India
15 Jan 09
You are very much right, comparison per se is not good. Comparison should only be made when two persons or two things are at equal pedestal. One cannot compare a man or woman, because both are different, like-wise a dog cannot be compared with a cat, because again both are different. Actually, it is human tendencies, you may term it as a human weakness also to make comparison (I remember, I started a discussion on somewhat similar topic, sometime back). When I am compared to a smarter or a taller person or a wiser person, I also feel bad. I believe that everyone is unique and has got some special qualities, therefore comparisons should not be made.
Very good post!
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@balacancer22 (1148)
• India
15 Jan 09
Well this discussion suits me the best since my parents always compare me with others and i really hate it..theey compare me mostly with the neighbouring guys who are so called better than me in doing their work whereas i'm good than them in heart but people dont understand that..including my parents...ya sometimes they do compare with my physical status where i'm not a muscled like them but i'm tall enough having 6.2 with 74 kgs but i put in shoulders back which doesnt look good...
Happy Mylotting
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@Llonorra22 (1150)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
Yes. A lot of people always compare me with my sister. They say that She's much prettier than me. But that's life,people will always compare you with others. But if I were you I'll just ignore them. Stay as you are besides you can't please everybody. right? Godspeed...
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@angemac23 (2003)
• Canada
28 Apr 09
Yes, I hate it when someone compares me to someone else. I am an individual and no one is like me and I am like no one and I like it that way. I find it very offensive when I compared to someone else.
@xixi_abby (211)
• Indonesia
23 Apr 09
Hi, annierose. you're absolutely right. anyone have their unique things. that's is the biggest crime to compre us to the other hehe :D. Yup, i have that experience too. 5 years ago my boyfriend always compre me with his ex. i'm not slim like her and bla..bla.. and the affect is until now i still feel jealous with my BF's ex. it makes me not confidence if i meet her. but, i can prove it. who is the better one..huehe :D
thank you have a nice day
