How will you know that your girl/boyfriend is abusing you when it comes to money

I think it depends on a lot of things if this can be called financial abuse. For example: - Is he doing this out of free will or is she convincing him to do so? - Is he making more money then she does, this can play a part too. - How long are they together? The longer people are together the more they tend to see money as 'their' money and spend it together - And most important: does your brother feel ripped off? As long as he has no problem with it I doubt it can be called abuse. If he decides to spend a lot of money on this girl and he feels comfortable with it I can hardly relate to it as abuse, even though I see what you mean if she is just after his money. I think the keyword here is free will. Does he want to buy her this things or does she make him buy these things to keep her happy?

I think my partner is a bit old fashioned because I know that he would rather pay than have me pay. But also he always had more money than I did and I couldn't afford to go out. I guess it is his choice to make. If he is happy with it then fine, but if not maybe he should date someone who is like minded. If my partner told me to pay when we went out, I would not have gone out cause I had no money to go out. We have been together now 12 years and are happy together. We never fight about money. Though we don't have a lot, and I am super frugal, we do what we can to have fun together. I don't think I abused him by him paying for us to go out. He knew I couldn't and we wanted to spend time together. I am glad he did. :)

My then boyfriend now husband used to buy me stuff. But not always.Like one time, we're in the supermarket then he'll ask if I still have soap or shampoo or something.For our dates, when he has lots of money, he'll pay for all. When he's kind of tight on cash, he will ask if it would be okay to pay dutch (half). then there are times that I pay for all when I have money. Give or take.

It's his money and his choice. If he doesn't want to buy things for her he can say no. It's not up to you what he spends his money on.