When people ask you why you're still not married what do u answer them back?
By n30wing
@n30wing (4767)
Philippines
November 24, 2008 1:56am CST
Now when people ask me that question I usually answer them very soon next year. How about you guys? Have a nice day to all of you!
11 responses
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
24 Nov 08
I look them right in the eye and respond "I am happy being single". For some reason they don't pursue the subject any further. I don't believe in doing something just to make someone else happy. I was married before to someone that didn't care a fig about me, and it didn't work out. If I remarry, it will because we are a great match and want to spend our lives together.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
26 Nov 08
Hi Lovebear, I am very much committed. Me and my fiancee is leaving in, were staying in one house for about almost two years now. Well no relationship is perfect but I really love her very much. I went to Manila cause I really wanna be with her. It was very tough times that time that I was away from her. I never have love this way. I wanna spend my life with her. We live a simple life. She was the only woman I introduce to my Mother, same with her it's already I am a part of her family and do love them also. I love her more each day. She never got married, she was in a relationship for 16 years and have 2 daughters, she was telling me that she never regretted having them. She also have her own business, I am kind a ashamed that she has her own house, but still I want us to have our own place. Her 2 daughters is like my own, still we want to have our own child. But it's like their my own daughter already. We just want the right path, right way. So we plan it this coming April, it will be a civil wedding. A simple one with few closest friend, family. She was telling me I got use to my family name. She never dreamt of getting married. She was telling me how would it feel? She was asking me why me? Marriage for both of us is sacred. It's better and for worst. This December it will be officially engage. No big party but only her 2 children and her best friend will be there when I'll put the engagement ring on her finger and ask her will you marry me. I hope she wont change her mind my friend. I know they will tell her say yes for once in your life. Her best friend was telling me she had sacrifice so much the pain and hurts the expectation that did not happen waiting for 16 years, how she took care of her family love them so much. Thanks for the advice. God be with us!
@Loverbear (4918)
• United States
26 Nov 08
I hope with all my heart she will say yes...I have a feeling she will. No matter what, it sounds like you have such a wonderful relationship. Congratulations in advance if she says yes. She will be getting a very special gentleman. My prayers are with you and I hope you'll let us know how everything turns out.
@moneymaya (901)
• India
25 Nov 08
well for such type of query I have very sufficient reply , since I am also single and lots of relative ocassionally askied and not only relative but also people and friends who knows me generally asked him and I have a very simple reason since I don't have any job so its not possible for to be marry now LOL, yeah I know that its dificult for me also to be without job but its different sitution for me , cheers :-)
@moneymaya (901)
• India
26 Nov 08
sorry friend , I am not with you about this though that God has planned it , if I am not interested that how could designed the marrige for me ...
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
I tell them that i'm not yet prepared financially and emotionally and that i don't want to rush it so i won't be regretting it later if it didn't turn out well. Marriage is sacred to me so i'm making all the necessary precautions i won't mess up. It's pretty hard to be with someone you don't love and someone you don't trust much so i guess that complicate things. Maybe soon when i finally get to meet the lady i love and trust most.
@SeishiroX (1093)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
"I'm simply not interested." That's what I answer them. Then I rant on about how life is difficult nowadays because of the global crisis and how children don't deserve to be brought up into a world where they'd encounter hardships. And that I'd want to settle my life's issues first so I wouldn't carry excess baggage into the marriage, etc. etc... My answers make their noses bleed so bad they don't ask me again lol.
Happy mylotting!
@torchablazed (3218)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
I am married but my bestfriend is 34 is still single, oftimes he complained why people insist that he should get married at his age, sometimes he just smile it away but often I hear him complaining like it irratates him so much. As to your question, when people ask him that, his respond would say that his other half has not come along yet, or jokingly he would say that she wasnt born yet. I don't ask him the question though eversince.
@shefalis (81)
• India
24 Nov 08
This is the question which is asked by all to all. Its the way of our society or rather a stage of our life. When i was not married and people wud ask me, i would just reply when it has to happen will happen. If i m destined to be maried i would eventually get married. I believe that we get what we are destined for but yes a little effot has to be put. But for marriage it just happens. One never plans except ofcourse if you ae the type to go thru matrimonials in paper or website and ae trying to get married. Its a different issue. But still in those cases it also happens when it would.but this query of getting married does not stop. Once u r married then the people wud ask you when are you planning to have a child. so basically the moment we are born this cirle of questions starts and it is never ending. We might hit the grave but the questions never. Have a nice day.
@iamcdy (1119)
• Philippines
24 Nov 08
I sometimes get irritated by this question and I hear it very often now that I am at my marrying age and most of my high school classmates, friends and cousins at the same age with mine are already married. Sometimes, I tell them that my boyfriend and I are still saving money for our wedding. Sometimes, I tell them that we are still waiting for the right time or I will just tell them that it will be soon. 
@MKBORA (80)
• India
24 Nov 08
hello sir,
well when someone ask me about marriage, i usually said them that untill i am confident of raising a family, untill i become responsible with a secure job and become mature. after that only i will "think" about marriage.
and at that time my parents will come to know that their son has become responsible, so they will search a lovely bride who will be the perfect match for me.
only after that i will get married.
marriage is a great responsibility, it can make beautiful new relation, or can destroy life.
and i want to have a lovely beautiful family.
so i am not in a hurry for marriage.
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
Well your right there my friend! Marriage is a responsibility and an obligations. But I am sure your gonna be a great husband. Well we've almost been two years and each day I love her more. We been to rough times and good times together and facing it together and never stop loving her. I want it forever! Keep on smiling my friend and take care always. You can count on me!
