Is it right to have still a friendly communication with your former sweethearts?

@mobhomeir (7565)
Philippines
November 25, 2008 8:21am CST
Everyone of us had some unforgettable moments in terms of our passed lovelife. The more it will be hard for us to forget when we thought and feeling sure enough that nobody can stop your destiny, not knowing unexpectedly that you were not meant for each other. From that day on you never had a communication anymore until time came that you both married from each others sweetheart. But I guess, world is really small to live in. Your communication with your both formers came-up unexpectedly due to our high form of communication technology nowadays. In your own point of view, is it still right to have a purely friendly- communication with both of your formers..? I think for me, its okay as long as you never put any malice on it...just a friendly communication...how about you, agree or dis-agree?
7 responses
@TheCatLady (4695)
• Israel
25 Nov 08
I'm on good terms with my former sweetheart. He's a wonderful person, but wasn't the right one for me or me him. Even though ending a relationship is hard, we both agreed that it wasn't going to work for the same reasons. We still communicate once in a while via the internet. Not frequently enough to be a problem, but enough so that we keep op on each others lifes milestones. He recently wed and I sent him a congratulations wishing all the best. I am truly happy for him. I think it's great that he found the right person. I loved him when we dated and breaking up didn't end the love, just the relationship. I always will love him as a person which included wanting the best for him and for him to be happy. From his pictures of his wedding on honeymoon trip on facebook, he looks very happy. His wife got a great guy. One of the best around.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
yeah..you're great..I salute you. but, the question is, is it okay with your husband knowing that you have still a "friendly" communication with your ex? Does he know this?
• Israel
28 Nov 08
I'm not married, but if I was I don't think a few short emails every few years would be a problem. We don't have any intense conversations, just short blurbs on the highlights of our lives.
• Kenya
25 Nov 08
thisis what has resally defeated mi coz i just cant bring my self to be friends with somebody you boke up with because she was cheating on me, any sight of her makes me want topuke but i just overcome it no to become unlawful,kilimanjaro80.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
yes i understand... i think your case is different from what i supposed to mean, but i respect your sentiments before with your girlfriend, yes and i am so sorry for that, what i mean in my topic was just an incedent that you broke up without third party involved..yes I understand your feeling...but would you believe in saying FORGIVE and you shall be FORGIVEN? well i think past is past, learn to FORGIVE and FORGET..cheer up
• Kenya
26 Nov 08
thanks for the insight but anyway forgiveness is a must for me coz who else would want to carry somebody he doesnt want for ages to live in hurt and be always in a,bad mood life is good and must be lived but forgetting thats another vocabulary thats yet to be with me,bye.kilimanjaro80
@paw1194 (36)
• United States
25 Nov 08
I think its ok to be just friends as long as it doesnt bring any issues in any current relationships.
• Israel
25 Nov 08
That's why I limit my contact with my ex to an email or two every few years. I keep it short and to the point. Also I never say or write anything that I wouldn't want published on the front page of the paper.
@diillu (5128)
25 Nov 08
I think it totally depends upon the kind of break-ups. As for me I didn't have that good break up with my ex. He was cheating on me and I caught him. So, without any further elongated fight and discussions I just left him. I wouldn't like to be friend with him again after what he did to me but I have to say that I have forgiven him for all the things he did cause it was him and it was my bad luck to have him. I have moved on and I wouldn't mind for the occasional hi and hello but I wouldn't want anything more.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
yes maybe he did not love you as much as what you've been expected from him before. Maybe thats part of our lovelife...a sad experience. Well, we will just forgive and forget I guess...
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
i think former sweethearts can still be friends and communicate. but it also depends on your relationship with the other when you broke up. if you had a very nasty fight breaking up, i don't think they can be friends again.
@mobhomeir (7565)
• Philippines
25 Nov 08
yes you're maybe right on that...cheers
@deedeehall (1144)
• United States
25 Nov 08
i agree it is better to be friendly then not be friendley.there is no reason to treat these people rude just because of the past good people should treat one another kind.ther is no reason not to talk to these people.go for it!
@shekher (272)
• India
25 Nov 08
hi, i m bit confused on this situation in my view u can talk to them and also be friend to them on condition