What Battles Do You Fight With Your Kids?

@kellys3ps (3726)
United States
November 27, 2008 6:37pm CST
Tom Cruise recently told OK magazine that he and wife Kate have a terrible time trying to get their daughter Suri to wear pants. "She's a girly girl." He said. We all face battles as parents, be they one thing or another. Tom and Katie can't get pants on their kid, some parents can't get their kids to eat anything green. What battles do you fight with your kids, and how do you decide when it is important that you win?
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@Erssyl (617)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
It is not really important that we win with what you call battles with our children.The most important thing is we get to teach them what is right from wrong.For me it is our obligation to guide them in every aspects of their life.If we are always around to guide them then we always win.
• United States
28 Nov 08
i have alot of battles with my youngest but it's al battles i dont think one is worse than the other.
• United States
28 Nov 08
well I struggle with my kids on their behavior but that´s something that my wife and I have to work together into, because it don´t work if I am the only one who makes the rules and tell them how to behavein any circumstances, if their mother don´t follow the metods of how they are suppose to behave. That way my kids will have a good start for their future on public relations.
@ebsharer (5516)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I really try not to battle with my daughter. She knows that when I say no I mean it and I won't change my mind. I guess the never ending battle I have with her is she thinks I'm a jungle gym. If we are sitting on the couch or floor she will climb all over me. I have to tell her time and time again NO I am not a jungle gym. and she responds by saying "JUNGLE GYM" PS We bought her a jungle gym for Christmas lol!
• Japan
28 Nov 08
One battle that has been constant with my 10 year old is game time. He would spend all day play on the Wii game if he could. I try to get him to do other things but he complains that he is bored. I sometimes feel that if he isn't looking at a screen, game, TV or computer he can't function. Somedays we have a day from my childhood (I'm in my mid 40s) where we had no computer, games and TV was only a few hours a day. The one thing is that he can't say he is bored and he has to use his own ideas to find something to do. He can get to be very creative. Maybe should do it more often!! When my older son, who is almost 17, was little I had a lot of battles with him about all sort of things but I realise in the great scheme of things most things aren't worth it. So with my younger kids I have let a lot go, but I insist on good manners, respect for others and their things, study and chores before playing. With four kids constant battles are to exhausting! Jacks
@Raven7317 (693)
• United States
28 Nov 08
I always try to keep in mind that saying, "You have to pick your battles." I try to think of the effect the battle will have on him, me and others. So for example, if I know that his insistence to do or not do something will hurt someone, insult someone or break someone's rules, he looses. This is why 'clean up' is not a battle because he learned very young, this is the rule. Trucks on the kitchen floor are okay until it's time to cook. Time to do clean up. NO Negotiation. I also try to let him win battles that can be explained as "he's three and who's it hurting?" So if he wants to wear a funky outfit, fine. He'll develop his own style later in life, based on what he feels is important for his own expression. If he wants to try to carry his own bowl of popcorn/cheerios/or whatever to the table and he suceeds, I've done a great thing for him. I've shown him that I believe he can do it and given him confidence. If he stumbles/drops/spills, I just help him/show him clean up, tell him "good try" and let him try again. I guess it just depends on you as a parent; you have to decide what you can put up with and what you can't and that should lead the way to deciding what battles you should fight or let go.
@jazel_juan (15753)
• Philippines
28 Nov 08
There silly fights i often have with my 4 year old daughter, often it would be about what she would wear! She is just so persistent, she wants what she wants, she does not like us forcing her to wear that or that..so at times i let her but at times i have to step in and force her like going to school, she has a uniform still she insists of wearing something else! But it gets so funny though...other times it would be about her taking a bath at night, she does not like it! lol for some reason she gets so lazy about it...