Friendship
@maygodblessu44 (7336)
India
November 28, 2008 4:40pm CST
Hello everyone here Ji,
Bewfore my marriage, I had lot many friends and we used to meet/ chat in person. After my marriage, it went on upto one year and died away of its own over a period of maximum two years. Now, after I started passing my quality time here, I find very good relationship here. I am almost getting addicted with you all. My hubby has lot many friends and he writes mail, makes phonecalls at regular intervals of time. So, you may note a clear difference between both of us. But we do not com ein between, but, it goes without saying that some of his quality time, which I should have shared wiyth my hubby, I am sharing with you. Do you think, I am harming him, will my thi sfriendship spoil our relation. has anyone of you come across such thing, plaese advise discuss with your numerous experiences. May God bless you, have a great time.
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@AmandaBarnhart (671)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
I think with any relationship its about keeping a healthy balance. A balance with eachother and without eachother. I think that if you aren't spending any quality time together now you should start. There's nothing wrong with coming on here but if it is replacing your real life I think there is a cause for concern. Take the time to go out with him or watch a movie together. We must make time to have time. try to find a balance between coming on here and the time you spend with him. If he's busy then come on here that means your not wasting any time that you could be spending with him.
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@maygodblessu44 (7336)
• India
28 Nov 08
Hello my dear AmandaBarnhart Ji,
I am really very much impressed by your way of thinking and advise, but then it comes, as if I do not have any of my quality time or if I want to use my time in my own way, I have to act as per my hubby, in other words, I would act like puppet, whenever he is free, I should leave all job and pay attention, when ladies would have their own way of thinking and living by themselves. Will this not come on my internal way of thinking. I think, I need some more advise from you. I am little old. May god bless you, have a great time.
@AmandaBarnhart (671)
• Canada
28 Nov 08
No you dont' always ahve to be by his side when you are free. I think that would really make you his puppet. But just try to space things out. I guess the best way to think of it is when your online and your talking just take a minute to think. Have we spent much time together lately. If the answer is no then go spend a few hours with him. I think as I said before a healthy balance between time with and without eachother is key. that being said I see mylot as being your release and away time from him which is great. The only thing is just try to force yourself to spend time with him if you've noticed that you've spent too much time on the internet lately.
My fiance and i make sure that we both give eachother that time away from eachother after work. I go on my computer and he goes on his or he goes and watches tv etc. We go do our own thing and don't bother eachother for a few hours. then about an hour before bed we'll often snuggle up on the couch and watch a show together then go to bed. You don't want to end up being his puppet which is why you should insist on having your own time. This may sound lame lol but what if you guys just set some sort of schedule up. Like when you get home the first two hours is yours to spend doing whatever you like. Or you don't even need to make the rules known you can just try to do it personally. Come on here or anywhere for a few hours even set yourself a timer. Then when that time is up go spend time with your husband. that will ensure that you get your time away and your not feeling like a puppet. We all need down time after work and some of the time this downtime is time by ourselves. It is key to have 'me' time if not every day every once in a while.
All the best :) And I hope this helped
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