WHAT is the ideal AGE?

@Jhordie (5115)
Philippines
November 28, 2008 9:15pm CST
I would just love to know... WHAT IS THE IDEAL AGE TO GET MARRY? for it not be considered SO YOUNG or SO OLD already! and why did you say so? THANK for sharing your views here. GOD BLESS YOU ALL!
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@munhozmib (3851)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
29 Nov 08
Hello, Jhordie. I do not think that there is an ideal age to get married. It depends too much on the personality of the person. The person must be mature enough to accept the consequences of marriage. The person must be mature enough to lead a family and be able to take the responsibility over your actions. Usually, that happens between 25-30 years. Before 25, the person might be too immature, too young. I believe that everybody should enjoy life before their 25 by going out and doing everything. Now, after 30 might be too late. Not too late that you shouldn't get married, but too late to raise a child or something like that. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
WOW! How young are you bro? You seems to be so knowledgeable about this marrying thing. I guess you are still single lil bro. But you got a lot of great ideas that you selflessly shared to us. THANKS BRO
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@munhozmib (3851)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
2 Dec 08
I'm just sixteen. Yes, I am still single. I had a girlfriend, but things weren't making me happy so we are not together anymore. Since then I have passed through a lot of heartaches. You know, teenagers... I always think I'm in love for someone, and when I approach the girl she never wants anything. Until when I realized that I should not look for love anymore. It'll find me. The real thing to get loved is to love yourself and be happy with the things you have. And well, I could be with a girl if I wanted. There are some who would be with me. But I don't think it would be fair to allude them. Being with them when I actually like somebody else is not my kind. :P
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
3 Dec 08
My hats off to you my lil brother... FOR THAT LET ME REWARD YOU SOMETHING THAT YOU TRULY DESERVE... being THE BEST here! CONGRATULATIONS! You did impress me A LOT!
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• United States
14 Dec 08
There is no set or ideal age for Everyone to get married. As long as you are of age, i.e. 18, you can get married.For someone 35 is too old and for another, 35 is too young. It all depends on what you want and where you are in life and what you want out of life.If you always wanted a huge family, then you should get married sooner than later. But If you want to have success in a career and then get married, later is far better than sooner.And it also depends on when you find that special person.For some they find their soulmate when they are in their 20's and others when they are in their 40's.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
WOW! I can't add to that! That was so nice of you sharing your wisdom to us regarding the ideal age for marriage hope I have read this earlier and I might have given the BEST response to you my dear friend. Though I gave it already to somebody else... I guess all I can give to you is my SINCERE THANKS and TRUE ADMIRATION of your wonderful response.
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• United States
16 Dec 08
Thanks. About the best response, don't give it another thought. I am so behind here in MyLot. I am glad you liked my response and that it helped. That's what Really matters. Talk to you soon.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
Again THANKS for all! I mean that from the seabed of my heart. :)
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@dodo19 (37239)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
29 Nov 08
I think there shouldn't be an ideal age. Personally I don't think it's a good idea for people under the age of 19 or 20 to get married. That is a personal opinion. But for me, what matters is that both partners are ready to jump into marriage. That's the more important thing. Every person is different. Some will be ready before others.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
SO it all goes down to the PERSON's READINESS TO GET MARRY! Thats the IMPORTANT thing I guess. Thanks for your nice response here
@dodo19 (37239)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Dec 08
Thank you for the compliment and you are most welcome.
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@elitess (5072)
• Ipswich, England
16 Dec 08
Hi there Jhordie - i am glad to post here as i want to give you my advice on this matter and celebrate the 1800th post ^_^. I believe that the ideal age for marriage is... XX i won't say any. I think there is no ideal age for marry (o.k., i admit, it should be between 22 - 35 in my opinion) but i don't think it is ever to late - as long as you find your loved one, the age of marriage won't matter, but you should always take some time to know your beloved one even if you are 20 or 40 which in my opinion should be at least 1 year before getting married so that you know what you are getting yourself into.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
I will remember that my dear brother so that when time comes for me to decide whether or not to get married. I will surely do what you have told me. Thanks for your time in responding here and sharing your wisdom. God bless you and your especial someone. :)
@rsa101 (21136)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
Well for me there is no exact age for getting married. For me it would depend on how mature you are with your attitude towards getting married. For me I got married when I was 30 but any younger than that I would say I was not ready back then.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
16 Dec 08
You are right about that! So readiness would all depend on every person for each of us are unique and different in many ways. Thanks for responding here my dear friend. Your response means a lot to me
@neildc (17251)
• Lapu-Lapu City, Philippines
4 Dec 08
I don't think it would be the age that really matters in deciding to enter the marriage life. I can say that it is great to start a family if both parties are financially secured and ready to face the responsibilities of being married. With all these, both parties must love each other, whole-heartedly...
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
4 Dec 08
What more could I say... You have mentioned every ingredients for a relationship to work. Thanks for sharing that to us KUYA! :)
@suspenseful (40314)
• Canada
1 Dec 08
The ideal age is under 25. For some people, women especially they can marry past 25 and have a lot of kids, but for many more, they may only have one or two. Eighteen is an ideal age for a girl, seventeen or younger if she is mature enough and that means, she has helped with the housework, has a part time job and is making a little money. But once you get close to thirty, it maybe that at the end of life it is just you and your husband unless you were able to adopt. Nature is not kind for all and fertility lessens as one ages.
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
You are the only one who says younger is much better.... AS LONG AS THEY ARE MATURE ENOUGHT to handle responsibilities. NICE CONTRADICTORY!
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
for me I'll go for male with 28 yrs up and female 25 years up. with a right source of income and is responsible of his/her future family.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
I guess that numbers would more or less state in the more likely maturity of an individual.... but still, financial stabilty should be considered also before walking down the isle.
@kun2349 (23464)
• Singapore
29 Nov 08
The ideal age for marriage varies between many ple.. Some says it's around mid 20s to early 30s, or some might say in their late 30s when their career is more stable.. Thus, there isn't really an ideal age.. But for me, i think it should be early 30s for me as by then, i guess i'm ready for a marriage life and ready to commit.. ON top of that, one will only become more matured as they grow older, and they knows where their priority lies.. Thus, to me, early 30s will be the ideal age.. hehe
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
How young are you kuyaKUN??? So that Ill know if you and ate will be nearing the ISLE. LOL! Kiddin aside, I guess, being old enough to realize ones dreams, hopes and plans would make an individual more capable of establishing his/her own family. Thanks for your share KUYA
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• United States
29 Nov 08
Age is just a number. Personally, I say whenever the time FEELS right. Don't jump into anything until you feel like you're ready, and don't be so scared that you're 80 years old and still single!
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
because being SINGLE is a CHOICE that one should still enjoy. :) Thats true. HEHEHE
• Canada
29 Nov 08
Completely depends on the person. I am 26, I have two kids, ages 5 and 3. My fiance and I have been together for 10 years, engaged for 6, living together for 4 years, and I still dont feel ready to get married. I have a friend who is 36, met her fiance on Facebook, dated for 3 weeks and their wedding date is September 26 2009!!! So I think it depends on the person, you could be ready at any age, or never be ready at all.
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
I guess so... it depends on the readiness of a person or being not ready at all! Thanks for your time pondering on my discussion and sharing your life to us.. God bless you my friend and your great relationship... and your kids most of all
@salonga (27842)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
Jhordie dear, there is no ideal age for me although of course I don't believe in teen marriage. But after teenage years, for as long as you've finished your studies and have gotten a job that will give you enough capability to build a family then you can marry. Even if you have reached past 40 but still unemployed and unstable then I believe you don't have the right to marry anyone.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
Very true... its the capabilty of a person that could say whether or not he/she is ready to get marry. Thanks for teaching us that great wisdom. :)
@rosedust82 (2070)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
Hello my friend... Well, I used to think that 24 was the perfect age to get married. Not too young yet not too old. Unfortunately, I'm no longer 24... am 26 to be exact but it doesn't matter. I think as long as two people are mature in all aspects and are ready to have a family, then, I guess whatever age that may be would be the perfect age for them to settle down.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
You are right my friend... There could be NO PERFET AGE I guess... as long as both are mature enough to settle. THANKS
@Kul4u007 (35)
• India
29 Nov 08
i think here the most important thing insnt the age,ya the minimum age should be the age decided by the law but after that its the matter of your maturity and your capabilities of understanding the things,at first you must be setteled in your life and allowed to make your decisions.you should know about your abilities because "LOVE IS NOT A FEELING ITS YOUR ABILITY"
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
THATS COOL! I never thought of love like that UNTIL TODAY! Thanks bro for reminding me that
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
29 Nov 08
This very much depends on the people concerned, Jhordie. My son has turned 21 today, but he is certainly not mature enough to be married ... whereas, two of my daughters were married at 19. I was married at 21 and I'm still with my husband after 29 years. I'd really hate to say any age was perfect, as everyone's different and copes with the problems of marriage in different ways. One partner in a marriage might be ready for it, but the other might not - and this could cause problems, too.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
So its not on a person's age I guess... its all about how mature an individual is to solve a couple's problem TOGETHER! Thanks for that sharing
@maean_19 (4661)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
I am on my late 20's now and still single. I do not think and worry much about when am I going to marry. My goal right now is to pass the Bar Exam and become a Lawyer, then after that I will consider that matter. Nowadays, I cannot say that there is an ideal age when to marry. It is actually when the couple are ready to tie the knot. It does not matter if you are young or old as long as you are emotionally,financially, spiritually,morally prepared and stable, then go for it. However, you should not be so young like below 20's because maturity wise, those ages are very crucial when it comes to decision making. Besides, there are men out there who had reached 25 or so and still immature.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
OUCH!!! I hope I am not one of them...hehehe LOL! But it is precisely correct... MATURITY doesn't come along with one's age. Thanks for your wonderful share my dear friend. GOD BLESS on your UPCOMING BAR EXAM. Ill pray for you.
@srikandi19 (3393)
• Kuta, Indonesia
29 Nov 08
if you find your soul mate. not important your age , you can married with him.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
I guess so... If a person find his/her mate. :)
@kaka135 (14117)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 08
I am also agree that there's no ideal age for getting married, it depends on individually. To me, the first priority is the relationship must be stabled, and the couples have decided and are willing to spend their whole lives together.
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
STABILITY is the key I assume you are trying to imply. And it is true, when both are stable then tey can both jump in the bandwagon of married individuals
• India
29 Nov 08
I feel for gal's the ideal age to get married is 23 andg for guys it is 27-28. People get married earlier sometimes. But then I feel that we shud first realise orselves and be matured before we get married and the mentioned ages will be perfect for to get married!!
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@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
Its sounds nice... but you think girls are earlier to mature than guys??? I am doubtful about that! lol
@allen0187 (34242)
• Philippines
29 Nov 08
there is no ideal age to get married. in fact getting married isn't such a good idea at all. lmao!!! you'd know that it's time to get married when you'd been "hit by lightning" just what happened to michael corleone in the godfather when he saw apolonia the first time. look it up and you'll know what i mean. happy mylotting! cheers!!!
@Jhordie (5115)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
NICE story there... Thanks for sharing. Its something that BOTH should feel and realize for them to say THEY WANT EACH OTHER for the REST of their lives.