Can you just be friends with someone you are inlove with ?

@ronnyb (6113)
Jamaica
November 29, 2008 9:29pm CST
How would that work.Would you for example be able to suppress your feelings when you saw her with someone else or would the unrequited love boil up in you so much you would end up hating the person she was with.For how long do you think you could continue this before you told them ? and what would be the repercussions ?Would the person still want you for a friend ?.Could you give an unbiased opinion if she asked you about a guy she liked ? and what if she and her boyfriends were having trouble ,what would be your advice then ,would you see this as the opportune to work your way in ? I think it either friends or lovers ,there are no middle ground ,end it cleanly and stay away form the person ,but what do I know,maybe you could furnish a balanced view of the situation ,please try !
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markroderick
@markroderick (887)
• Philippines
30 Nov 08
Of course though it is really hard to maintain such friendship. especially if you are falling in love with your or someone who is close to you. i'll suppress my feelings of course, if ill see her/him happy with someone else. if she/he would ask me with regards to the she/he loves i would tell her with all honesty. i'll just give my own opinion of what ive observed or notice or ill give her advice because were friends. ill just have to accept the truth. but if time comes that i'll have a chance why not? besides in love there's always a risk.
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ronnyb
@ronnyb (6113)
• Jamaica
30 Nov 08
Interesting what you said about love being about risk cause I would say then based on your argument to tell her from the onset and not wait till there is an opening,there may never be one ,I say take the chance then lol
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vicki2876
@vicki2876 (5636)
• Canada
30 Nov 08
I think many people think that they are in love but actually are not really in love but rather something else is going on there. Whether is it longing for something you can't have or fear of commitment so you long for someone that you can't be with to avoid trying to commit, I think people confuse these emotions with being in love. I think this way because I think love is a two way street. How could I be in love with someone who does not feel the same. I think love is built on emotional and physical experiences shared by two people. I also think this way because I have had a few relationships where the guy was "in love" with me only when they couldn't have me. I didn't see love but I did see a bad obsession. They all have moved on and married other people. One we were "friends" for ten years (I knew he thought he loved me, but claimed to want a friendship even though I wouldn't be with him) until he found another woman and then never called me again. I do think that I am in love. I have been with my partner for 12 years and I still get butterflies when we are together. I find I that my feelings have grown over time. I feel that he loves me back and we are happily in love together. So I really don't think it is possible to have a true friendship with someone if you have feelings for them that they don't feel back.
suzzy3
@suzzy3 (8341)
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30 Nov 08
I think it would be very difficult,because you would always be waiting for the relationship to go wrong and be ready to step in always hoping if she really does love her fella the best thing to do would be to distance your self lick your wounds and get on with life.If she discovered you had feelings for her it could make her very unhappy ,the best thing to do is distance yourself if she asks why.tell her the truth,if she does not appear to miss you stay away.