I want to know what he thinks of me

@reykja (121)
December 1, 2008 8:58am CST
I met a guy since end of September at a party. After a short chat, he asked me to go and have a drink with him but I said no because I was with my boyfriend. Then about 4-5 weeks ago I met the same guy at a folk dance where my friends invited me to join them. I didn't recognise him at first but he came over and asked me to dance with him and then I remembered who he was. Then we talked for a bit and some weeks later, I asked him out for coffee at a students' café. He came and we had nice chats with my friends. Then I asked him last Sunday to join me for baseball and he did. Then again on Thursday I invited him to my place where I was having a small party with friends. He came and during the evening he flirted quite often with me infront of my friends, he even once held my hand. He was the last to leave. But once my friends were gone, he suddenly became more quiet. I thought that maybe he had too much to drink so I offered that he can stay over on my couch. He smiled but said no that he should go home. Later that night I got an sms from him, telling me that he got home safe. Then we just kept in touch a bit on skype, I've invited him out for coffee again during the weekend but he declined saying that he has to study because he did nothing the day after my party. However, he also told me that he will be free again after today. I am now on a break with my boyfriend and want to get to know this guy on a normal circumstance. The guy knows that I have a boyfriend but doesn't know that I am now on a break with him. I want to get to know this guy better, but I don't know if he sees me as a friend or more???
3 responses
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
1 Dec 08
as much as he done as he coudl so far for you i say go for it, just ask him. it is leap year after all.
@reykja (121)
1 Dec 08
Well I wasn't sure at first cuz I was always the one asking him to join me but he has never asked me to join him in anything yet so I wasn't sure if he's just being friendly, but thanks for you answer :)
• United States
1 Dec 08
he sounds liek me...im a shy type, if he got quiet while you two was alone he is just shy...talk to him..kiss him if you have to he will loosen up eventually.
@meow1978 (190)
• Malaysia
1 Dec 08
Actually are you rushing to get marry? If no why are you rushing for it. My advise is stay low and slow. Get to know him better before you make any comment. What if he is not the one for you in future? Break up again? Sometimes it is more comfortable to become friend than being a lover. My advise take sometimes to study him and understand him better of. Give him sometimes to understand you too before making any move. Beside, let the guys do the jobs. Enjoy the courtship. Have a nice day!
@reykja (121)
1 Dec 08
Hi, no I'm not rushing, I just want to get to know him better without seeming desperate/ I do not want him as a boyfriend straightaway without knowing him better. I just wanted advices on if there seem to be any chances with him :)
• Philippines
1 Dec 08
Be true to yourself, nothing will be lost if you will try, right? If he just want frndship, good, if he lyks you, better. Good luck and have a nice day.=)