A friend to everybody is a friend to nobody!
By srganesh
@srganesh (6339)
India
December 2, 2008 4:56am CST
Do you agree this.If one wants to be friendly with all people around him,is it unfair?Do you think selecting a few people for friends and sticking to them is enough?Is the one who wants to be a friend to everybody,can't be relied upon?At the least 'love all" is not a good quality of living? Please share your opinion!
4 responses
@jakill (835)
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2 Dec 08
I agree with another responder that the answer to your question depends on your definition of a friend. To me a good friend is someone I can enjoy spending time with, or just chatting on the phone, someone who will try to understand my problems and go out of their way to help me if I need it, and will rely on me to do the same.
I have many friends like this gleaned over the years, but nowadays they are scattered around the country, or the world, and opportunities to meet up are few. In the meantime, I enjoy some virtual friends at various websites and like to be friendly with real people who live near me. If I don't interact in a friendly way, I could miss an opportunity for another true friendship.
I like the phrase "love all", but of course it is not really possible to be intimate with everyone. However, in the same way that it is the busiest people who can find time to do more, these people can often have room in their heart for lots of friends and these are people I believe can be relied on.
I hope that makes sense because I didn't find it easy to express what I mean here.
@savak03 (6684)
• United States
2 Dec 08
You express yourself very well jakill. You and fjaril both make very good points about friendship. I would just like to add that the word 'friend' has come to have many different meanings.
In this forum a friend is someone who you put on a list so you can be notified when they start discussions or so they will be notified when you do. There is no real connection, at least to start with, so calling them friend is a misnomer. However, that is the term the site uses for this purpose so we are stuck with it.
It is possible that some of these connections will turn into good friendships and I think that is great, but I think we are diluting the term friendship by using it so casually.
@machel2008 (616)
• China
2 Dec 08
i think if one wants to be friendly with all people around him is his own choice,nobody can disturb him.but the true friend only the few,if in our life we can meet even one true friend ,i think that's enough.
@liquorcs (194)
• Malaysia
2 Dec 08
I don't agree with you because a person can be friends with anybody he want. So when he wanted the be friend with everyone, means he can be friends with everyone. Sticking to friends is not good because you don't get to learn new things and the experience you'll encounter will be less. My motto is, make new friends with everyone but not enemies.
@joystick7 (728)
• India
2 Dec 08
Making friends to me is not unfair at all.. Selecting a few friends or making more friends or less is upon each individual's nature and choice. I personally like to make many friends and I am sure most of my friends rely on me too.
