How do you say sorry to your loved one?

samijo719

@samijo719 (1052)

• United States

4 Dec 08

Hmm how is my responsign being charming. I am by no means "charming" my boyfriend when i apologize. We have lived together for 3 years. Things happen so by giving him a hug/kiss telling him how sorry I am and that I appreciate him and everything he does I'm being charming? No, more like sincere.

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

point taken, it was just something that a friend of mine had said earlier that made me just have to say that . being sincere is always good :) but hwo often does that work?

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

ah that charm again...all the girls say they use teh charm i see... and all the guys just say sorry. wow such an unthought of response.

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aisaellis22

@aisaellis22 (6445)

• United States

4 Dec 08

Hello luvandpower! Honestly, it's not me who said sorry first everytime my husband and I had a little argument. Everytime I started to confront him, he will just immediately say sorry. I want him to said something bad to me sometimes but it never happened. I just remember one time when we had our very big argument that he told me he is starting to loose his patience and while saying it, he turn around and went to our room. That's the time I felt how rude I am to him, so I followed him to our room, kissed him, hugged him and apologize to him which he accepted immediately. With just one kiss and I know my husband's anger would go away.

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apology

kiss

aisaellis22

@aisaellis22 (6445)

• United States

4 Dec 08

Yes, you are right (hehehe) We are very lucky! Cheers!

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aisaellis22

@aisaellis22 (6445)

• United States

4 Dec 08

Anyway, how 'bout you? How would you say sorry to your love one?

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

ah the secret and sacred power of a female. wish guy's had one of those.

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shonali

@shonali (1286)

• India

4 Dec 08

there are many times in any kind of relationship when you say or do something when you are angry but later regrett doing or saying that thing and realise your mistake but then sit and think how would you ever be able to go and say sorry to that person...thats whats called the ego...which comes in the way many a times i have let go of saying sorry in the past and so i have lost some of my valuable relationships.... but now i have come to realise that these relationships and my behaviour towards them....full of ego and arrogance has taught me things in life the hard way.... and so its always better to go and tell your loved one you are sorry for you did...because you may not realise now but you will realise much later after you have actually gone and said sorry tot he person concerned how nice you feel inside....

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shonali

@shonali (1286)

• India

17 Dec 08

well if thats how you feel then put aside your ego and show her your love and care instead of saying you are sorry which you will eventually learn to say one day cos you love her so much !!

@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

17 Dec 08

that is pretty much the size of it yep:(

@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

yea...that is how i feel too, it is so hard ( because of the ego) to actually say your sorry, but you want to, you just want to show her all of your love.

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gtdonna

@gtdonna (1738)

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4 Dec 08

For me I say we need to talk and then I tell them how sorry I am for whatever had occured and depending on what hapened or why the situation happen, I explain my reasons for saying ro doing what I did and let them explain how they felt and why. Always end great as we meet each other half way and give the respect deserved.

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discuss

gtdonna

@gtdonna (1738)

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4 Dec 08

Very often! To me it all ahs to do with how you handle the discussion, you can't be upset and angry, but be open to listening to issues your love one has and be ready to say sorry and move on

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

so it is all in just letting the both of you know that it is in the past ? and moving on from there?

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

and how often does it come out in the good?

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caskins

@caskins (689)

• United States

4 Dec 08

hello my fellow myLotter, i just call them into my room and sit them down and tell them i'm sorry and what i was sorry for. then i give them a hug and a kiss.

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

and how often does that turn out good for you?

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@caskins (689)

• United States

4 Dec 08

it turn out good everytime.

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

ok then thanks! i may have to try that. :P

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ladybug24

@ladybug24 (18)

• Philippines

4 Dec 08

I say sorry with sincerity. I recently had a big fight with my bf three weeks ago. I knew it was my fault and I tried to say sorry the day after the fight but he told me not to call him for a week. I thought it would be over because it was the first time that I saw him that mad. And I never did call him or send a text message, which was far from my personality coz I never stop until we're ok, because I feel that I have no right to demand for him to listen to me. But I really really want to explain myself and apologize. After 4 days, he was the first one who sent me a text message. Our common friend told me that hours before he sent me that text message, he was saying I haven't communicated with him, not even a text message (and I thought he wanted it). And from there, it gave me a signal to say sorry for what I did. And from that experience, I learned that women have this special charm that can unarmed every man...

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

hahas a secret charm eh? yea i know what you mean. I wish us guys had a charm like that. my girlfriend would probably flip if i didn't talk to her for like a week...

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ladybug24

@ladybug24 (18)

• Philippines

4 Dec 08

yea.. I can't stand few days without talking to him. It drives me crazy but that incident was different. I made a mistake, which means I have to let it cool down before anything bad could happen. I need to take the consequences...

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@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

4 Dec 08

consequences have to be of course in order, what do you do if he doesnt' want to set any and doesn't want to talk about it.

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yukyrob

@yukyrob (167)

• Philippines

5 Dec 08

good day yes, me and my husband had gone into these issues. all i had did is accept my fault and tell him that it will never be happen anymore. you dont have to explain everything further. just tell him what he had to know and them hug or kiss him. you could also give him a peace ofering and just do good all the time, be honest and be loyal to him/her. there are things that depends on a person. but as for me. im praying first to God to guide me on the stepd that i will do. you culd ask friends whose close to you or some of your partner's friends. just give some time too on your partner and spend days doing things that you know she likes best. things that could make him/her smile.

@luvandpower (2048)

• United States

8 Dec 08

Ok well what if she is giving you the silent treatment? and thanks for your response.

murali603

@murali603 (114)

• India

5 Dec 08

i wil express sorry by hugging her tightky which can h=guve her a good feeling to forgot about all the past..so she can able to mix with me as past ...but whith out a cool hug she cant be that much of affective