Your Son got a girl pregnant. Now what?
@AmandaBarnhart (671)
Canada
December 4, 2008 10:37am CST
If your son ever got a girl pregnant what would you as the parent do?
I just answered something like this on another forum. Not this question but I went off on a tangent because it was geared towards just the 'daughter' getting pregnant and didn't discuss what would you do if your son got a girl pregnant.
Me personally my son would have to step up to the plate, get a job and start saving. I would help him support his child but I would never allow him to have the easy way out. I wouldn't care if he was an all star athlete going to get a free ride to university and the choice was between that and the child. I'm a firm believer that with every action carries consequences. If he really wanted a life with university doing something he loved then he should have thought about that before hand. I would tell him he would need to take care of the child (if he was below the age of 18) and then go from there. He would be supporting and taking care of the kid just as much as the teen mom. I feel that should be shared, and far to often I feel it's too easy for people with sons to say. "It's not his and fine he'll pay child support." Then never helps out in any way but sending a cheque in the mail once a month.
I would however not to be spiteful or rude to the girl request a paternity test. For everyone's sake including the babies should anything be medically wrong with him or her you need to know the exact parents. Plus there can be no doubt what so ever and he will be legally bound to pay child support (especially once it's proven the child is his) should he ever choose to leave her after he's 18.
2 responses
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
I fully agree with you, and I do ask for forgiveness about not mentioning the male's role. ( sorry). I had thought about it just it didn't somehow come up in my head when i was thinking while typing. The only problem with those tests are two things.
1) Depending on the state you can't force the male to take a test.
3) Depending on the sate you can't force the male to pay child support if they are not married.
I see both of these loopholes as stupid measures they put into place on purpose how about you?
@AmandaBarnhart (671)
• Canada
4 Dec 08
I don't live in the states I live in canada and I think it is the same across the board. No you can't make them take a paternity test but don't you think the judge would see it as something odd that if he's professing not to be the father then why not prove it as a means to clear your name.
See I think if they dont' take a paternity test you can still take them to court for child support. I'm don't fully understand the laws on this so I'm gonna do some research on it and let you know. Either way I know my child will have the paternity test done and I will have him sign a contract that deems that he will pay child support. I will sign it as a witness (parental singing since he'll be under 18) Then I'd give a copy to the girls payment. Child support may not be forced but then again if a contract is signed he is bound to it. I think you can do that. I'm not sure I'll have to check up on that as well. Either way while he's under my roof he won't have the easy way out :D
@luvandpower (2048)
• United States
4 Dec 08
Oo cruel and cruel thinker. All I can say is touche. I will also research. ( lol I am supposed to be doing research already for class anyway...)
@xomgitskamax (937)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I would be a really upset mom. I know what being a daughter to a young mom is like. I didn't like it. I was in daycare all the time while my mom was at her classes.
