When To Know I am In Love?

India
December 4, 2008 1:04pm CST
Guys i have many female friends , i talk with them, i share my feelings with them , i also shared some intimate moments with some of them ... but i am not sure whether i am in love with anyone of them..can any one help Plz...
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• Canada
4 Dec 08
Let me tell you something I tell others whenever I am asked this question online or in real life. I'll let you view your situatino through my eyes as someone who knows nothign about you.. ________________________________________(that's a blank line) What I'm trying to tell you is that no one can tell you if your in love with someone. No one knows exactly what your feeling, no one knows how you are with this other person and what goes on inside your head and heart when your with them. I will tell you one thing whenever someone asks me if their in love I tell them NO. Often they are shocked at this answer and wonder why I can be so mean. Well it's true. If you ever has to ask anyone else about your feelings then the answer is always NO. If you must ask the answer is no you don't love them you may be infatuated but if you have to ask total strangers online then I'm going to have to tell you no. You may ask me well when will I. You and only you will know the answer. No one else.
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• India
4 Dec 08
you are right .. i am in a state of confusion..that means i am yet not in love... but i am afraid that ,,if i fall in love then i may loose my other friends or they may turn away...does that happen?
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• Canada
4 Dec 08
You are confusing me yourself. If you are having more than one relationship with a girl then yes. If you are Dating these other women all at once then very much so yes. But if you haven't initiated anything more than a friendship with your 'friends' then they shouldn't leave you because you love someone. If they did do you really think they were your friends to begin with?
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• India
4 Dec 08
hmmn your comments make sense to me... is there any phobia for falling in love....i think i am suffering from it:-) dont know how to come out of this?
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• Puerto Rico
4 Dec 08
You will started to feel that you need that person. that you miss her and want to be with her for the rest of your life
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• India
4 Dec 08
does that mean that i will start ignoring all the rest of my friends ..and give my whole attention to just one girl..?
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• Puerto Rico
4 Dec 08
No. You can be with all your friends but of course you will like to give her more attention
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• Australia
4 Dec 08
Only you will know maverick. But you'll start feeling you wanna spend a lot of your time with her and really enjoy her company.
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• India
4 Dec 08
do you mean to say ..i will start getting possesive about her? and one more thing ...can i fall in love with more than one girl?
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@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
from what i read and my experiences, i would say that you know you are in love with someone when: - you miss her a lot, many times with no reason - when you look into her eyes, you get a feeling where you cant explain it - you get jealous when she talk to other boys, or when she date other boy or even when she tell you about other boys. - you feel comfortable with her, you feel secure. - you realise everything is rainbow when you are with her. - you always wanted to be with her. these may help you, i donno, anyways, my pleasure to tell you. :)
• India
6 Dec 08
Some of the feelings that you have described i do get ... but i am very much afraid to become possesive about her... i dont want to become possesive and lose my coolness...i want my mind to be tension free and cool as it is now...also i want to concentrate on my career..do you think it is possible when you are in love?
@Rexdoron (345)
• Malaysia
7 Dec 08
many people i met say that we should run for our career first before trying to catch the rose. but for me, it depends on how you manage your life - and its important. also to mention, she have to have a certain degree of understanding of what you intends to do in your life. if she is understandable, then maybe you wouldnt face problem in getting your goal. :)
@yukyrob (167)
• Philippines
5 Dec 08
you could only feel love and know it when you had started exerting extra effort and making a lot of things to make a person very happy. or when you start knowing evrything about her... missing her always wanted to see her.... i dont know how a man's mind work as regards love, but thats how i see my husband did to me. hope i made a sense in this.
• India
6 Dec 08
Thanks for your comments.I hope i get these feelings soon..and does not effect my thinking or the way i think...and even if a change has to happen it should be for the good..
• China
9 Dec 08
I see you must be handsome, or maybe you are friendly to most of them, and you may be charming. Aha...just make fun. Well, you must distinct the difference between friendship and loveness. You must know love is based on the mutual support, understanding, mutual love. Anyway, GOOD LUCK TO YOU!