Honesty or Loyalty?
By Zezlol
@Zezlol (409)
United Arab Emirates
December 5, 2008 10:05am CST
When it comes down to friendships and relationships between people, what to you value more, honesty or loyalty? They are both qualities that the ideal friend should have but they can't both be top. One always tends to outweigh the other. There are other virtues that come into the equation such as fairness, compassion, and respect, but none of them are ever in conflict as much as these two.
So what's your verdict?
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5 responses
@munhozmib (3837)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
6 Dec 08
Hello, Zezlol.
Loyalty means the person will never betray you. The person will be always there, by your side, supporting you in everything you do and willing to help you in any way they can. Honesty means they will play a clean game with you. They will let you know if you are not pleasing, or if you are getting boring or something like that. Therefore, I'd choose a loyal friend. Why? Because a loyal friend will be always there for me. Even if he does talk bad about me by my back, he will still be loyal and be there for me. And I will never know he is talking bad things about me, therefore I will not get hurt. He will be there all the time. He might not play clean, he might be laughing at me when I am not looking, but when I need him he will be there.
Respectfully,
Munhozmib.
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@Zezlol (409)
• United Arab Emirates
6 Dec 08
I understand what you're saying, however, friends that talk bad about you while you're not around aren't considered 'loyal'. Anyways, most people that talk and laugh about you behind your back with others usually aren't there for you when you need them the most.
@Daydreamer2 (470)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
i go for both. Honesty is a virtue and loyalty is the act of staying together. in fact i valued honesty because its hard to lie it never silenced conscience and being a lier is a sin well, i'd rather die in being true and living in the honest world rather than dying facing lies. Loyalty speaks deeper meanings its about being true also and being oneself. if i will be loyal i will gain a lot of friends, if i will be honest i will always be true to myself, life can always be fair if one knows to be one! even compassion and respect you must start showing it so that they will show you the same. Happy mylotting!
@Zezlol (409)
• United Arab Emirates
9 Dec 08
Loyalty and honesty, in this context, were being used as: would you prefer a friend who's always there for you and never talks behind your back, or a friend who never lies but may not be there for you whenever needed? Either way, your input is valuable. Thanks for taking the time to post! ^_^
@Zezloler (497)
• United Arab Emirates
5 Dec 08
This is a tough one, and I have to say I have no idea what to choose. I would like both... but if I had to choose one I would probably go with honesty. I respect people that are able to tell the truth in whatever circumstance, and be completely honest with their friends. Even if they tell me what I don't want to hear, I will admire what they did to even say it to me. o_O
Loyalty, I also consider an important aspect, but not so much in a friend. For some reason, I feel greater respect for people that are able to remain loyal to things like a country or a team rather than another person.
If talking about friendships, I would go with honesty on this one. ^_^
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@Zezlol (409)
• United Arab Emirates
8 Dec 08
I agree 100% with you. Loyalty is extremely admirable - but more so in circumstances such as the ones you mentioned. Honesty is more of a trait I'd be looking for out of a friend; someone who wouldn't be afraid to tell it to you like it is.
Nice post. 
@cuddling (2)
• Philippines
9 Dec 08
For me i go for honesty because if he or she is honest, you can give him or her a respect and trust to each other.
