When should a little girl get their ears pierced?

United States
December 5, 2008 8:50pm CST
without my permission my daughter's granmother got her ears pierced when she was about 8 months old. My ears are pierced, and I imagine that she didn't think I would mind. I suppose she should have asked me first, because I had planned on letting her choose to have her ears pierced when she was older. I was able to choose when I was 8, so i was going to do the same with her. My child is 9 now, and because the holes closed we ended up having to get them re-pierced. So I suppose in retrospect we both got our way. Should a little girl get to decide to have her ears pierced, or should the parent make that decision for them during infancy?
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• United States
11 Dec 08
i got mine done when i was 7!
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• United States
6 Dec 08
I got my ears pierced at age 9. If I had a daughter I would wait until she was a couple years old [5 probably].
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@kellys3ps (3726)
• United States
6 Dec 08
My grandmother also had my ears pierced when I was 3. As an adult I still regret that my ears were pierced and I wish they would close up. If I had a daughter I wouldn't allow her to pierce her ears until she was 12.
@Pigglies (9336)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I wanted to get my ears to close at one point, but I think on me it would look bad because I have a lot of scar tissue on my piercings due to long term allergies. I didn't have them pierced until I turned 20. I still sort of regret the decision, but I don't regret it now as much as I used to since I found out that I can wear glass earrings and not have allergies. Before I regretted it because either I had constant pain from wearing earrings or I had nasty looking ears.
@kirei24 (252)
• Philippines
3 Mar 09
hear in our country as early as 1 month old the baby is..
• United States
11 Feb 09
I think that a child should be able to decide if they want their ears pierced. My parents gave me the choice when i was in third grade. I am 19 now and i've never had to get them re-pierced because i remember it hurt.I think that if they make the decision when they are older and recall the pain then they won't want more piercings.
@jarnold51 (124)
• United States
16 Jan 09
I am a grandmother and I can't imagine doing something that drastic without the parent's permission. That's totally out of line.
@LadyMarissa (12160)
• United States
10 Jan 09
I don't know that it matters when a person's ears are pierced. Supposedly it is easier on a baby than on an older child. However, I think the grandmother should have asked if it was OK to pierce the child's ears instead of taking it upon herself to just do it. Personally, I think I would wait until my daughter asked to have her ears pierced. I was 16 years old when I had mine done & a friend's Dad did it for me in the bathroom of their home. The best part about ear piercing is that if you change your mind, you just don't have to wear any earrings & the hole grows tighter. It's not like you're scarred for life once they are pierced. I had a second piercing done to my ears when I was about 25. It has been years since I put earrings in those holes. Now those holes are hardly noticeable unless you know they are there.
• India
30 Dec 08
in india we get ears pierced at a very early age that is early months itself either the 7th or 9th or 11th month.we do invite our close relatives and perform this as a grandceremony,i feel that little girls can get their ears pierced before 3years so that they can wear earings,studs etc of their choice.
• India
15 Dec 08
I have a daughter of age 10 and she got her ears pierced when she was 5. And the matter was not at all decided by her. In our place, generally the grandmothers decide and get the thing done. We do not see any harm in it that they are not able to decide as all girls get their ears pierced. Happy mylotting..
@Pigglies (9336)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I think people should have the decision to pierce their own ears. I'm glad that my parents didn't make that decision for me. Although, if they would have, my ears would have just closed right back up anyway. I can't wear earrings made of metal (except surgical grade titanium), so now I wear glass earrings. But children probably shouldn't be wearing glass.