What should you do if your grilfriend change about all the time?

China
December 5, 2008 9:27pm CST
I love my girlfriend very much, Though she often find fault with me all the time. There is only one thing I can't stand: her inconstancy. Today, she says she will love me forever; tomorrow she could say she won't love me anymore, and won't want to see me again. the day after tomorrwo she probably woudld say " I am sorry what I said yesterday, I love you." and so on............Is she testing my love for her or something else. I am totally confused, but I love her I didn't want to broke up with her. What should I do?
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18 responses
@Kumaresan (450)
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
hello there... i understand your situation... well, the least you can try is that, explain to her your true feelings towards her... let her know what's she doing for you... you said you love her so much, explain that feelings... if she still finds some fault into you, i'm suggesting to you to better broke up with her or you find fault on her... come on... we are guys... how long you want to tolerate the girls especially if they doing like this??? i didn't mean to offend the girls but please think about it... we also do have heart and feelings...
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• China
6 Dec 08
yeah, brother. It seems that we have same experience. Only the guy who go through the similar experience could feel the pain we suffered.
• Malaysia
6 Dec 08
don't worry friend... it's part of the love game... we have to go through it...
@mae1216 (658)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
If this happens to you probably there is something wrong between you and him You might be change as well or you just keep on doing what you are doing before. Why don't you try to do new things to impress her. Girls can not be consistent, even me, my husband are keep on complaining about that, but he can still manage. :-).
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• China
8 Dec 08
yeah, girls need to be cheer up all the time. i just neglect this because of my business work.
@mae1216 (658)
• Philippines
8 Dec 08
Don't neglect it. Because guys just don't understand it that female wants more attention than you know..:-)
@tarheel (151)
• United States
8 Dec 08
There are a lot of really great women in the world. It sounds like maybe you have more invested in this relationship than she does. Even though it might hurt at first maybe you should let her go and find someone that you are more compatible with.
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• China
8 Dec 08
there is the last solution i want to see.
• United States
7 Dec 08
brother, 3 weeks ago you declared , you broke up with your girlfriend and then, I suggested you not to break and somewhat predicted, you guys would patch up soon. Seems like my words turned out to be the true. so, I've more words of advice for you.. if your girlfriend is so inconsistent about what she's talking .. then obviously, something is not upto her expectation which is triggering her temper. Instead, you could try to seat around, talk peacefully and try to find the reason what is causing her temper. That way, you'll be paying more attention to her, and she'll think you are caring about her. But, if she's fire and you blow it, things will turn worst. Be calm, you are the man, don't be child , sometimes woman loves when you treat them like a guardian. Show lots of love, don't fight with her, .. if she's a normal woman, she'll be under your control.
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• China
8 Dec 08
under my control? she seems so ambitious that she want to totally control me.
• China
7 Dec 08
from you said,i think you love you girlfiend more than she does.so you will sad for her inconstancy.i think you will tell to her you don't like that and hope her change.if she really love you,she will change for you.or you must have choice leaving.
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• China
7 Dec 08
i told her once before, didn't work.
@pooHnes (15)
• Philippines
7 Dec 08
well, i guess, it's just her normal way of acting cute..hehe! maybe she just want to make your relationship a bit lively..in the sense that small fights could really make the relationship not boring right?...even I,..I always find trouble with my boyfriend because I want to test whether he really loves me or not...you know,,girls are moody and very insensitive..i think all you have to do is to tell her what you feel whenever she starts being moody...for her to become aware of her actions..
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• China
8 Dec 08
you mean that's way girls act cute. which will kill me:)
@mayhem23 (185)
• Canada
7 Dec 08
Well, I think you should go with your gut feeling. If you believe that something is really wrong, then you should talk to her about your deepest feelings. If it something that you overlook, it might get better over time but it might get worse. It might be nothing to do with you and something to do with her. If it is early in you relationship, give her some time, and then talk to her about it. Good luck guy!
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• China
8 Dec 08
thanks pal
@ladynetz (968)
• Canada
6 Dec 08
This way of her means to me that she does not really like you as much as you like her. And that she does not know how to tell you, maybe she cares a lot for you not get hurt, but still she's not very "for" you two being together. I think that a nice talk, maybe in a place like a small cafe, will help getting things straight.Good luck!
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• China
8 Dec 08
nice advice,a romantic place to talk about it.
@UK_Shree (3604)
6 Dec 08
It sounds like the relationship between the two of you is very unstable. I do not think that she is being fair on you. I know that it would be really hard for you, but I think that you should tell how you feel and that if she keeps behaving this way then you will not stay with her. And hey if she doesn't respect how you feel then you are much better off without her in the long-term. Good luck
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• China
7 Dec 08
what i can't stand her most is she always does what she want regardless of other' feeling.
@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
6 Dec 08
i agree with notlistening, i couldn't be with someone like that. maybe she does need to back to the shrink. as for your question to that response.....flat out tell her, 'make up your mind' period. no discussing, no apologies, just tell her make up her mind and stick with it. i don't see how you can let yourself ride that emotional rollercoaster.
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• China
7 Dec 08
i have talked to her about that before. she promised she wouldn' do it again. but, you see………
• India
6 Dec 08
Dont do any thing my friend, just love her. Its the situation of all the boys, some are exceptional cases are there too.. but i think 90% of boys are in the same situation only the frequency changes, your frequency is in days, my frequency is in months. hahahaha... there is an old saying, Women are mystery. Just love them, never try to understand them. If you try to understood them, then you may dont have time to love.. Just love her at your most, and enjoy the life..
• China
6 Dec 08
Romantic explanation, maybe you are right. But I am not a person who conldn't put her words into my heart. thanks anyway.
• India
6 Dec 08
I think that hapens with every girl..not only with your girl and i think you will have to adapt to her situations to be her best man..you should never be against her thoughts and you should sacrifice alittle for her..sacrifysing is all thats needed in life and make it good..happy mylotting..
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• China
6 Dec 08
I have compromised a lot of thing, I am not event myself. I have tried my best to satisfy her. When quarreling I always give up at first. But at some principle aspects, I can't, I think nobody can.
@kerriannc (4280)
• Jamaica
6 Dec 08
Don't pay here any mind. If it is that she wanted to end the relationship then she will be more serious and tell you. Just try and understand her and you will know her different types of mood. Every one have mood swing it is up to the partner to differentiate them.
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• China
6 Dec 08
I know we have mood fluctuation sometimes. But for love, I think it's seriuos matter, it shouldn't be that way.
• United States
6 Dec 08
You just have to tell her to make up her mind. Sometimes people in relationships keep people hanging on and date other people, then go back to the person they were originally with when things don't work out with their new boyfriend/girlfriend. You need to ask her if there is anyone else.
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• China
6 Dec 08
It seems she doesn't have sb else. Thanks anyway.
@dumindum (160)
• Oman
6 Dec 08
What i would do is explain the whole thing to her
• China
6 Dec 08
I tried, didn't work.
@dumindum (160)
• Oman
6 Dec 08
You are saying that she is always checking you right? Do something which could gain a huge amount of trust from her. Hope this helps If this prob. Is very serious, you could get advise from a expert online
• India
6 Dec 08
cool..................
• China
6 Dec 08
you will be punished if you keep posting like this.
• China
6 Dec 08
I think she really love you ,but she don't know how to love you ,so she always find fault with you ,try to attract you ,maybe she just want you express your love to her.
• China
6 Dec 08
Maybe you are right, but at least I think she should choose right choice, not do it regardless of my feeling.
• Philippines
6 Dec 08
If your girlfriend always changing all the time, then you should be happy because She's NORMAL!
• China
6 Dec 08
..........What can I say, buddy, you mean I should get used to it?