Treasure(s)

Kitten - Mom's stuffed cat I bought her 20 some years ago.
@webeishere (36351)
United States
December 8, 2008 11:37am CST
This is a shot of a stuffed kitty I bought my mom 20 some years ago. I bought it because it looked just like her cat she had at the time. Well the cat died after a few years from old age etc. Now that mom passed away I asked dad if I could have it. He refused with no reason given. He has kept a lot of her stuff in a shrine like setting in her room. Well with dad as bad as he is with his memory I took the cat the last trip I went to the farm. I know mom would have wanted me to have it. Was I right to take it even though dad did not want me to take it? Do you have anything like this in memory of your deceased relative etc? HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB!!~
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@munhozmib (3840)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
8 Dec 08
Hello, Grandpa Bob! I do believe that taking the cat was wrong. After all, it belonged to your father since your mom passed away. And if he said you shouldn't take it, then you shouldn't take it. But now it is already with you. Try to wait for a bit and see if he notices that the cat is gone. If not, then keep it. Do not give back now that you took it away. Unless if he asks you, then you handle the cat back to him. Respectfully, Munhozmib.
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
9 Dec 08
You don't know all about my dad. He has slught dementia and can't recall if he ate an hour after he did eat. So he doesn't know I have it anymore. It's not hidden so if he sees it he may ask again why I have it. He seems okay with it now though. So no biggie. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@munhozmib (3840)
• Sao Paulo, Brazil
9 Dec 08
I am sorry about it. I didn't know he had it, so that's why I said it. If he didn't notice or if he doesn't mind anymore, no problem!
@James72 (26829)
• Australia
8 Dec 08
I am going to have to ask for your forgiveness Grandpa Bob as I made a semi-humorous comment in the comments section of the photo of the cat before reading this discussion. Personally I see no issue with you taking the cat from the family home, no. It is obviously of great sentimental value to you and as you have already shared, your Father does already have a lot of her things already! Having this cat allows you to also have your own personal shrine/memory of your Mother and for sure you will treasure it and look after it in the manner it deserves. It was also a gift that came from you in the first place so a strong connection has always been there. I don't have any items that belonged to any relatives that are now deceased at all unfortunately.
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I loved the comment actually. It is the end with the bow. (I think) HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@jillhill (37377)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I have some things that were my mothers...mostly dishes....I do have a hat that my dad used to wear all the time...it's cool. Oh and I have his Minnesota Twins coat! Love that one!
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I've so many things of moms. I even have her SS card, her Moose Lodge Membership card. Other odd ball items like this, as well as dishes, etc. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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• United States
8 Dec 08
Hi Grandpa Bob;, such a pretty kitty, Your Father is probably ok with it really, but how lovely that he is still "sentimental" over it too you know? It just shows that he must've loved her deeply right? I hope (G)!! I'm glad you have it with you know and I'm sure your Mom is also happy; Blessings!!
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
8 Dec 08
To be honest, I can not reall dad ever telling me or mom he loved us. Not in my lifetime anyhow. That's how my dad was though and still is. I am okay with it. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I do not think you were wrong in taking the cat after your father said no. My reason is because the cat is somewhere where it has no use, that is if the farm is empty. At least by you having it, the cat, even though it is a stuffed animal is being looked at and appreciated. I think you did the right thing, I am sure your mother would have liked for you to have it. I have two cats, the male cat's name is Jake, he is black and white, one year at a holiday bazaar we saw a stuffed cat that was black and white and bought him. He is always standing in the corner, and we named him Fake Jake. Enjoy your stuffed kitty, I am sure your granddaughter will love it.
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@webeishere (36351)
• United States
8 Dec 08
Yeah the place is empty actually so that's the main reason I grabbed it. I know mom wanted me to have it, but dad needed a shrine for a bit I reckon is all. It's where it belongs now and shall stay here for sometime now. HAPPY POSTINGS FROM GRANDPA BOB !!~
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@hildas (3031)
8 Dec 08
I really think you have done the right thing. Your Dads farm is empty and it really will be looked after by you well now Bob. You did buy it for her also and I know too she would of wanted you to have it. I am sure if you told your father you took it he would know that it is important to you and would be glad it will be safe and loved. It is a lovely cat Bob and I glad you can have it to enjoy now. Take care and you can pass it down your family also in many years to come for them to enjoy also.
8 Dec 08
Hi GRANDPA BOB, I don't really think it is bad for you to take it as it will be seen by all the family when it is displayed, I really don't think your dad will mind too much now and I konw that he will remember the toy. Tamara
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@eaforeman6 (8983)
• United States
8 Dec 08
Since you gave it to her to begin with, it seems only fair that it should go back to you. Yes, I have things that have been handed down throught the family and I treasure them. My mother in law gave me things that she wanted me to have and shes still alive. She said she would not worry that they went where she wanted them to go. Have a great day, Grandpa!
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@busyB4 (875)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I dont know how long it has been since your Mom passed, but it sounds like your dad is still grieving and not dealing with the wanting to give things up just yet. Sometimes it just takes time. As far as your dad's memory getting worse,you might want to keep an eye on him , something like that can set off a faster progress if he has any dementia type issues going on .
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@Chevee (5914)
• United States
8 Dec 08
I don't think it was wrong for you to take it because of the state of mind your father is in. I am sure he would want you to have it than for it to be misplaced and lost forever. It is a pretty stuffed kitty cat well kept and preserved. I wouldn't mind having it myself it looks real life like. Does it have a name?
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• India
9 Dec 08
it was my dog which i had to leave because we moved to a new house which is very small and my dog has no place for it to fit
@jerzgirl (8170)
• Gloucester City, New Jersey
9 Dec 08
I had to save stuff from being given away that was my dad's. Mom just got rid of everything and expressed surprise that I would want anything at all of his, questioned why I would want it, what I would do with it and tried to tell me I couldn't have it. She sold his jewelry before I realized she had, or I'd have gotten the black onyx ring he'd wanted to give my son. I did salvage the belt buckles, though. He had an extensive collection of them. I let my kids pick what they wanted. I know they didn't have a good relationship - nor did I growing up with him - but he was still my father and there were still some good things I remembered that I felt denied because of her actions. But, she's still my mother and I still admire her in many other ways.
@williamjisir (22884)
• China
9 Dec 08
Hello Grandpa Bob. It is of great value of the stuffed kitty that you possess from your loved mother, as it is something that reminds you of your loved mother. I am sure that it is the same with your father that he wants to keep it there in her room. It is a way of both of you to miss your mother. All the best to you, friend.
@DonnaLawson (4032)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I really don't think that you did wrong.. When my mom was sick and dying, the family just fell apart and there were bad feelings at the time, so I knew there would be ones who would go in and take everything they could and leave nothing for the others to have a remembrance of our mom, I was right.. I had given her a guardian angel which hung over her bed at home and in the hospital, and when she passed away, I took the angel, I now have it hanging in a special place on the wall so we can see it and remember her.. I bought it for a special reason and I am now the caretaker of it, it wasn't very expensive but it was the angel that guarded my mom when she was sick.. I was right about the others going in and selling everything, but they didn't have my angel because I had it in a safe place and I will keep it forever to remember my mom.. I am sure that your dad would have wanted you to have it if he were in his right mind but when that happens to them, you never know what they are going to say about anything.. I would keep it and cherish it forever..
@Opal26 (17684)
• United States
9 Dec 08
Hey Grandpa Bob! I think it's ok that you have the kitty. I know your Mom would be happy that you took it home and gave it a nice warm place to stay! Don't worry about your Dad! Even it he did remember saying you couldn't have it he would get over it! What good is it doing all stored away? At least you can enjoy the memories. I wish I had some nice memories of my relatives. I have a few little things that were my Grandma's and they mean so much to me. I just wish that I had more!
@camomom (7535)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I don't think it was a bad thing to do. If you know that she would have wanted you to have it and it means that much to you, yu should have it. Especially with your dad's condition the way it is.
@guybrush (4660)
• Australia
8 Dec 08
I think you were definitely right to take the cat, GB - your Mum would want you to have it, especially if she knew how much you wanted it as a memory. Seeing as your Dad is living with you, is the farm empty now?