Love marriage OR Arrange marriage??

I don't know. Knowing me, even if I knew for sure that love would come from an arranged marriage I think I would fight it with all I have. It's just the idea. WHen I think back the centuries I can see that a huge percentage of arranged marriages were done not with the people involved in mind but many other things that had to do with money or power or any sort of gainings. And then there's the thing of having someone imposed to me, even if I could feel something towards that person I think I would kind of reject it just in principle LOL

Being an American this discussion is an interesting one. Here the statistics say that at least 50%, maybe as high as 60% of marriages end in divorce. There aren't arranged marriages and I think that there are a lot of people who don't understand love. They get all caught up in ooie gooie feelings and forget that love is deeper then that. With an arranged marriage, the love that people feel after marriage (sometimes years of marriage) is real love. It goes deeper then a fast heart beat and a good time. I am lucky enough to have a great marriage. We really love each other and we married because of that love. But long lasting relationships don't happen because of how you meet or marry, but rather your understanding of love, the work you put into your relationship, and often your determination to make it last.

Hi,I think who can handle well the family they avoid quarrels.peoples mind set is different before marriage.after marriage particularly they should change his mind set when they have kids.Here,we all get problems if love marriage.

Hi frnds, My opinion is both love marriage and arrange marriage were both good to get married. In future i will see if i likes a arranged marriage.Now only few love marriages were success in their life's and better life.Only few true love marriage were success in their life's.But best is arranged marriage is better and good relationship will starts in new life.

Love, can`t live in other way

Love marriage is the best choice.Marrying a unknown personal is a sort of hell.

For me it is a love marriage but having said that I am also divorced. It was one of those things that happened when my now ex-wife decided she was no longer in love with me and had found someone else. Ironically that relationship did not last too long after I found out about her affair and we separated. However we have some friends who freely admit that they did not marry for love but because they wanted many of the same things. I suspect that part of their wishes and hopes from a marriage were because neither of them had happy homes when they were growing up. However they have now been married for 25 years and I can honestly say that they do love each other deeply. While not an arranged marriage in the accepted sense, it was not initially a love marriage. So there can be benefits or advantages from either type of marriage. More than anything for a marriage to work a couple have to trust each other, put their partner before all others (parents and siblings for example), keep the lines of communication open and respect each other. For me personally though it has to be love. I have found that again with a wonderful woman who is my life partner and it is a love match.

Always love marriage, that's my option, even though I don't judge people who are adults and FREELY and without any coertion decide to marry for whatever reasons. However, I despise those marriages in many cultures and religions in which the ppl involved don't decide anything..everything is decided for them by their parents, clan leaders, etc.

Marriages are made in heaven , so whether it is love marriage or arrange it is already been decided by someone . But to be precise i would defintly support love marriage coz reasons are same as u have mentioned .Marriage is one of the important decisions that someone takes in its life so one should also be carful while making such decision and should lone be responsible for its choice making

YOu said "Everybody has to marry one day or the another." not true im single and have no desire to marry of course im also old so dont have to concern myself with it! It is possible to have a fullfilling life alone !

I would prefer Love marriage over an Arranged marriage. I guess growing up in America brings me to this. I'm sure if I was brought up to have an Arranged marriage I wouldn't argue against it I would just follow.

I will say to love and get married or love after marriage is just the same. Both has it pros and cons. I will go for arrange marriage which allows you to love before the marriage to just see if both of you guy are compatible. If not there is nothing wrong in love marriage either. Its more to personal preference and family culture

But in love marriage will be a failure sometime...we cant say it will succeed every time it does have a chance of failure...Most of the Love marriage in my neighborhood are becoming destroyed.....But When Loved and seperated their wont be anyone to supprt you not even any1 because you have destroyed the status u had ur famil had and in arranged marriage there is no problem like that ..who said in arranged marrage love comes sometime it will come everytime and it use is they have complete freedom the women feel as there is someone with u so she wont be afraid but in love sometimes there may be feeling a lonely people because u have destyored ur parents money and status they made and their hard work in u is lost they will have lost all hope on her

I would go for love marriage. Its the usual, its the most romantic way of falling in love and the best reason to get married too. In love marriage both of you agree to be committed for the rest of your life simply and incredibly for the reason that you both love each other. And this is the "sweetest thing" they called that someone could feel before getting married. Unlike in arrange marriage where you basically could and would probably heard each other by name or by face. And you would not even know what is the attitude of each other. I really that out of 10 arrange marriage couples only 4 survived and was fall "in" love or with the company i should say. Because in reality its not the love that you had fallen with but the "company" of that person. You just fall just because so and not because you just did so.

I think it ultimately depends on luck and our handling of situations. We all have seen so many love marriages not even completing a decade while arrange marriages celebrating golden anniversaries. Important thing is to remember that marriage is a commitment to be there when it matters, to put the spouse and the family before self and an agreement, out of which one cant just walk way just because the going is not smooth or there’s suddenly someone else. And then there are the children too…it’s a huge impact on their future lives as to how their parents behave with each other.

hy dear Lifeless i agree with arranged marriage there are different things in arranged marriage because your parents are not in favour of you when they seeking a good girl for your marriage so they try our best that they search such a good chracter girl not a good looking face and have a nice figure i hope you understand on my that talks so yu can love your life partner before the marriage and after the marriage i think the first one is better than from the second one . you can also understand him after the marriage so why the peoples are loved him before the marriage to understand him why ?

I dont think is there any difference between this two bcos love and arrange both look same and we most understand when we love each other that is the best love for both and arrange marriage is one which is taken care by parents of either side when we have problem or misunderstanding or something bad we approach parents and parents guide us but in love marriage self understanding is the most thing between each other then only we can be successful in love marriage and no parents interfere here

i still go for love marriage, because that's the essence of getting married. you marry a person because you love the person and you're ready to spend the rest of your life with her/him. arrange marriage is like marrying a stranger. i can't imagine myself lying beside a stranger, it will be a very difficult situation to begin with.

I suppose the concept of love and arranged marriage exist in few countries ...most of the countries have love marriages where the partners choose themselves...arranged marriages are where the partner is being chosen by some family member of the bride or groom... now in arranged marriage a lot of social pressure is there to make the marriage successful ..because it is not only the decision of bride and groom but also of the family members...thats why these marriages have high success numbers... in a love marriage..the complete onus is on the couple gettting married..

Well, you may've seen a lot of Indian marriages that are arranged and they've worked out just fine. The couples may not be in love at first but they do gain a lot of respect for each other as the years go by. Marrying for love, however can sort of sour and pall for many couples. The bloom of honeymooness fades and it becomes a chore to work at. Don't get me wrong, I've also seen many love-marriages that work. Whichever it is some work some don't.