Stalker or not!

United States
December 8, 2008 2:45pm CST
This guys from work, started emailing me about the same time that i was having problems with my husband, he was really sweet about the things he would say, so i started emailing him more. Well it got to the point where he thought that we had something going on between us, but it never got to that point. so he started to get mad when i wouldn't email him back, or if i didn't talk to him in the office. so he got hold of my cell phone number by pretending to be from HR when he called my parents house. So he calls me non stop and since i didn't answer he started texting me threatening me about telling my husband about us, the truth was that we were never an item, we never did anything together. This guys really freaked me out, i mean when i decided to tell my bosses about what was going on, i decided to be at work really early before he got there, but to my surprise he was waiting for me in the parking lot, demanding my cell phone, then i ran inside the office to my supervisor who shut the door once i told her what i was crying about. After explaining to them what had happened they were shocked not about what i told them, but about the fact of what he did and was doing to me. So they locked him in the owners office and they asked to go home for the day, and they asked him to resigned. He later emailed telling me that i was cruel, that i used him as a toy and that god was going to deal with me. OK once again nothing ever happened between me and him,so the reason why they locked him in the owners office was because, once before i had left early and he followed my outside, he was holding my car door so i wouldn't leave and he was just going crazy on me. so what do you guys think.
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@sid556 (30960)
• United States
25 Jan 09
I think you need to tell your husband and you need to go to the police. I am surprised that all your company did was lock him up in a room for a while and that they did not notify the police as his behavior is scary bizzare.
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@ryneweir (14)
• United States
8 Dec 08
What a Nutbag (The guy not you).
• United States
9 Dec 08
Thanks i thought so too.
• Australia
12 May 09
That sounds really scary. I hope you are doing ok now (being 6 months later and all) I'm glad your boss took you seriously and fired him. Was a good move on their part. Hopefully, you have managed to move on from it and he has left you alone, if not, I hope that you have involved the police and that he gets what is coming to him. Some people are just control freaks and will intimidate you just to get what they want, without having given thought to what you want.
• United States
11 Dec 08
Well, from what you've said, I wouldn't exactly call him a "stalker". A stalker does just that...he stalks you. He knows every little detail about your day to day...he stakes out your home, your job, your husband's job, your gym, your grocery store, your parents' house, your grandparent's house...knowing you inside and out is who a stalker is. Your guy is just an old-fashioned lunatic. And a lonely one at that. He's just looking for someone to share his life with, that's all. And by you emailing him, you gave him hope, albeit false hope, that maybe he was finally making some progress. But this guy is definitely creepy...he should talk to someone with a few degrees and a couch.
@proudnana (192)
• Canada
25 Jan 09
hi there esme, I can tell you are really troubled over this lunatic and this is causing you a lot of stress. You don't need this harassment going on in your life. I also agree with Sid about telling your husband even though you were having problems with him at the time. Report it to the authorities and let them deal with him. Its better to be safe than sorry whether he is a stalker or not. take care ~proudnana~