S O S!!! my marriage is going down the toilet

Hard situation, My husband is in military too i guess i can understand you, if i were you i would leave him a lone for a while and don't bother him with questions, or try to be away of arguing about anything, Give him some time so that he can think , meanwhile keep on supporting him. But consideration, respect is the most important thing in the marriage don't let him to abuse you ! I am sorry i am not a good adviser i hope everything becomes good back again!

Give him some time and space. Keep supporting him, but don't let him take advantage of you. Once some of the pressure is gone, things will likely get better...

well there is nothing much that you can do with your husband in the military and not always at your side...i cant really ask you to sit down n talk it out with him but yes you could do that when he comes back but i guess you might have already tried that out by now and i bet it hasnt worked cos i think he doesnt want to talk with you at all.... well in that case the only thing to do is to let it go.... if there is no way that you can make him understand by words and actions then there is nothing really you can do anyways.... leave him alone as he has to fight his own battles too...in his mind...dont pressurize him for now..... be spontaneous.... thats all that i can say !!