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By binacheri14
@binacheri14 (299)
United States
December 9, 2008 2:34am CST
ok who still spanks and why? does it work for you. I think that when you spank you are usually mad or you wouldn't use that form of punishment. It takes away from the fact that the child did something wrong and makes the parent the bad guy, instead of the action that led to the spanking being wrong. You can't tell me that you spank out of love. If you take a moment to cool off and give your child a moment to think about their actions is there really a reason to hit. What other alternitives have you tried. Ask a child to be honest and give them a question, "do you want me to spank you and go on with life or would you like me to be a parent, explain why your action was wrong take away privilages and learn from your mistake" most would say, if answering honestly, "spank me and let me go play". So what is a parent to do.
Do you discipline or do you punish and why?
2 responses
@MysticTomatoes (1053)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I will spank when my DD and any other kids we have are old enough. I don't feel that it does anything or makes the parent the bad guy. It doesn't promote violence or teach a child that hitting is a way to get what the child wants. It teaches fear and respect of their parents. It teaches a child that if they screw up, expect serious consequences. I was spanked as a child. My DH was spanked as a child. We see nothing wrong with it and rather than raise a bunch of self indulgent wieners, we are going to raise our children to be self sufficient people who have respect for everyone. I am not going to stop and explain why my child shouldn't run out in front of the street. Children when they are young can't remember stuff that well. They'll remember a good paddling more than they will a stern mommy lecture. No wonder we are all raising such a generation of sissified kids. No one wants to step up to the plate and be a parent!
@binacheri14 (299)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I don't think children should fear their parents I think that children should trust their parents. discipline and punishment are two different things. I'm not talking about a 3 year old running out into the street. I'm saying that parents are to lazy to explain to their children what they did wrong even if they do spank they don't explain.
To many stats. show that emotional problems such as self-esteem and behavioral problems. Plus ask a child what they want a quick spanking or something they love taken away from them. Spank me and let me go on about my business. Parents are to busy thinking their children will grow up a sissy if they don't learn to put their hands on someone who made them mad. Good luck raising a bully.
You are right about one thing "No one wants to step up to the plate and be a parent"
@MysticTomatoes (1053)
• United States
12 Dec 08
Children need to fear their parents. Out of fear comes respect. Children today are too quick to walk all over mommy and daddy and they just stand there with their fingers up their a*ses wondering what to do.
Take a look at any of those Nanny 911 shows. It's ALWAYS a stay at home mom with 6 kids, a dad that works 8 jobs and mommy and daddy just don't know how to keep their unruly brats in line. A quick spanking is all it takes.
As for the self esteem and that, I don't buy into it. I was spanked, and as I grew older, I was involved in a lot of activities. I was a cheerleader in both high school and college. I had dates. I had lots of friends and an active social life. I didn't become a recluse who wanted to never leave my room.
