Passive-Agressive Men

United States
December 9, 2008 12:59pm CST
Do you live with one? Do you get frusterated to the point of wanting to throw stuff because he just doesnt face the problems? Are there times when there's an obvious problem and you can tell he knows it, but he pretends like everything is just fine? ........... Share your stories if you can relate!! Thanks
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@shonali (1286)
• India
10 Dec 08
oh yes i guess i can relate with you.... my ex boyfriend was passive - aggressive.... he used to live for the moment.... where as sometimes its good but not everytime.... specially when it comes to finances ..... we were always finding ourselves in a deep spot but whenever i used to turn for help he used to be around witha n expression of "yeah yeah everything is alright we'll manage somehow" i was always the one trying to make some extra money as we had dogs too of our own ....so for their food and our pocket money it was mostly my money that was used....sometimes he used to get a couple of bucks but it hardly used to stay in his hand..... when asked where the money has gone there would be no reply ..... if i spend money i was asked a million times about it but when he used to spend no questions should be asked...finally i couldnt take it anymore.....
• United States
10 Dec 08
mmmmm. sounds very familiar. And it is very frusterating.
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@shonali (1286)
• India
10 Dec 08
then i guess i can say that there are more women than we actually think in this world facing such a problem with their partners
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• United States
10 Dec 08
And sometimes it's the woman who is the passive agressive one.
@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
9 Dec 08
I would consider my last serious boyfriend to be passive-aggressive. We were having financial problems and he would just go on as if everything was just fine. Leaving me to figure things out. When i would try to talk to him about solutions, he would just give me a blank stare and a poor excuse. But then when I would find solutions and not include him on how or what I was doing to solve the problems, he would blow up and get insulted. Needless to say we are no longer together.
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• United States
9 Dec 08
haha. that sounds very familiar. Good job for leaving that one. that would be a distster if you married him.
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@cbreeze (1207)
• United States
10 Dec 08
OMG...Yes. And we were engaged to be married on 7/7/2007. I stopped the wedding three weeks prior. Just had an impending feeling of doom regarding it.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
Good job listening to your intuition. Wish I had. lol
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@sid556 (30989)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I dated a passive agressive man for 8 months. It was tough. I actually gave up and threw in the towel. I'm a mom and I had too much on my plate to deal with his mood swings. My kids didn't need it and they didn't need me being so distracted. I understand that he probably had some emotional issues but I'm not a shrink and while I could sympathize with his angusish.
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• United States
10 Dec 08
I hear yah. It's good you did what was best for your kids.
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@bamakelly (5193)
• United States
11 Dec 08
Sometimes that can happen in a relationship and I do have my moments of frustration. My husband is a good man but he seems to go through personality changes once in a while. I might be a little moody myself. Maybe I should not complain. I don't mad enough to throw things though. Sometimes in a relationship you just have to accept the other person because we all have our little ways. Just try to have some patience and things could possibly get better.