Love?? or Hate??

United States
December 9, 2008 6:17pm CST
My boyfriend and i barely get along. I love him to death and would love to just pour my affection and attention on him but because of his mouth and actions i have a very hard time doing so. Seems like everytime i am comfortable with him and feel like giving him lots of attention and affection he finds a way to shut me down. let me rewind....when we first met he had never had attention or affection and since i am a very loving and affectionate person i gave him all i had. that scared him...he told me to back off so i did. now he realizes he liked all the attention and affection and im having a real big issue in giving him attention and affection they way i used to the way i enjoyed giving it to him cause i am so worried of what hes going to do or say to make me feel like im the bad person. example: were sitting in a lounge and hes playing with our daughter. other people are around and the baby starts to cry. i try to handle the baby but he just wants to complain about how im taking care of her. In turn i leave the room to let him handle the crying knowing he cant cause he has no clue. I come back he tells me im brainwashing the baby into loving me more then him and growls at me about how this is the last time hes going to warn me if im going to brainwash the baby then hes gonna leave me alone. Finally he realizes that i know what is wrong with the baby and i feed her and say why didnt you just make her a bottle?? he says you know she wont eat for me. I left him alone with that and took care of the baby and gave her back to him then walked away. after some time he comes and says he needs my affection too i said get away your being a jerk and im not giving you attention. Why does he do this?? and Why cant i give him attention or affection like i used to?? it seems i cant make myself even though i want to be loving like i used to?? ANY ADVICE?
2 responses
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
10 Dec 08
I been through this kind of realtionshipe before. Some men only want affection when they want it, no matter how much you try and love them it is either to much or not enough. I just got out of a 3 year realtionship like this. Sad to say, i end up finding affection in someone else and I had to make a horrible decsion because of this. I think the best think for you to do is talk to him, let him know how you feel and really sit and think about going through this for the rest of your life. The only thing that might be keeping you together with him, is that you guys have a baby. I am very upset to hear that he thinks that you are trying to brainwash your child. Parents are supppose to work together, it seems like he is trying to work agaisnt you. Do what makes you happy. i wish you the best of luck.
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@jolan07 (70)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
our sitiation with our partners are very the same...i have a boyfrnd too,and i am deeply inlove with him....but he has changed,the very first tym i met him,,,i can say that he's a perfect one but when the time passes by,after two years of our relationship,he changed. i can't explain but the way he acts,the way he talks to me,,, and when i nevr txt him,he also nver txted me it! seems that he has a problem and when i asked him,he always says "no i don't have a problem".... what i've done is that,i let him do what he wanted to do... i tried to measure if he really loves me....but as of now...i am still suffering the heartaches he had cause....