What do you think about best friends turns to lover?

@julise (494)
Indonesia
December 10, 2008 3:59am CST
Iuuuh!!!! that's what I think. Seriously, every time I think my best friend turns to be my lover it makes me want to puke, I feel disgusting... its not that he's ugly or bad or anything not good. He is actually the very best kind of man that I've known. I like almost eveything about him, and ofcourse, as best friends we know about each other like open book, and care each other more than we care about our self. But imagining him to be my lover, its... oh god no!!! I feel I'll get sick. Maybe because its just weird? Maybe because I already know him in side out? Maybe because I just dont want anything that we have change? I don't know which is the real reason I feel sick everytime I imagine him to be my lover. But one thing for sure, I always compare every of my boyfriend with him, hahaha... like I said, he got all the qulification thats best for me. But again, him... to be my lover??? no way! Some of my friend said one day, we will be together as lover (god, it makes me sick), and at that time I will have to take back all my words against best friends turn to lover, What do you think? Have you ever experience in the similar situation? Tell me about it
2 responses
• United States
10 Dec 08
I have learned from past mistakes best friends are great at what they do but when you cross that love line everything changes. I had a friend with whom I got along perfect, I could tell him anything and he me, we talked about all sorts of things, and then one day we decided we had the perfect plan we knew each other inside out and we were so compatiable that we had to be meant to be together. We thought on our findings and didn't jump right in and each decided it sounded right so we began dating. As time went on circumstances came between us and I called off the relationship. We had agreed to always be friends but after a failed relationship that close bond was gone. If you are considering dating a best friend really think it over before you do. Are you willing to lose all you have for a chance? I wish I had never crossed that line.
@julise (494)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 08
Thanks for sharing your experience. I know that kinds thing clould happen when you change 'the relationship title' between you. For me, I already feel sick imagining me and him being 'lovers' hahaha... so probably I dont have to be afraid the same thing will happen to me right?;p
• United States
11 Dec 08
LOL maybe not but in all honesty it kind of took us by surprise as so just keep your guard up if the sickness stops and you start noticing the little fluttery butterflies when you are together:)
@pitsay (173)
• Philippines
10 Dec 08
Its funny how you feel about your best friend, but i also do think that your friends are right, maybe, the probability of you two getting involve with each other is 100%. Sometimes we think of the other side and do not look into the real world, wake up girl, the next thing you knew is his gone forever, because he already found someone and its too late...give your self a chance =)...love is sweeter when its shared unconditionally.
@julise (494)
• Indonesia
11 Dec 08
Believe me, I've seen him dating (steady) 3 other girls. and I dont feel a thing. not even a bit jealous. Well, probably because even though he's dating other girl, we never lost contact or even reduce our time to see and talk to each other. One thing that for sure, until now, I still feel sick if I imagine being his lover. btw, I also mention this to him, we both laugh out loud. Its really wierd seeing him as a lover.
• Hong Kong
21 Sep 10
Loving your best friend is one of the most enjoyable in your life. You cant really in love with someone you don't know yet. Its really the beginning of good relationship, good communication. No one does it better than your best friend.