long engagement
By missy54
@missy54 (17)
Philippines
December 11, 2008 5:02am CST
my relation with my bf is almost 17years but we both have decided to settle down by next year hopefully but what bother my mind is that many people i meet told me that long engagement is not good because mostly will result to separation...what is your say on this matter?
4 responses
@weasel81 (2496)
• Australia
11 Dec 08
i've been with my partner for 7 1/2 yrs we got engaged not long after getting together. marriage is only a piece of paper now, not as much meaning to it as there may have been in our parents day. so you finally tir the knot will anything realy change in your life? most likey not so there should be nothing to worry about .
@missy54 (17)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
yes your right the meaning of marriage is very different compared to our parent's time...but if you are happy already with your partner its okey being tied with a knot is just a symbol if you will not give importance with doesnt change your life the most important is that you have trust with your partners to stay forever.
@Kanutchie (343)
• Philippines
11 Dec 08
Dont conclude to the separation instantly... The first thing is you need to ask yourself that Are you sure about your feelings about ? and do you have a negative question about youir relationship? are you completely happy with the love that he gave for you? if your answer is you are completely sure you can persue the wedding.., its the same thing with your partner. if u have negative thought dont get married.... find another.
@missy54 (17)
• Philippines
15 Dec 08
hi, thanks for your advise. in our long engagement we undergo misunderstandings that are normal but we will not allow to keep it unsettled for a long time, what i like in our relationship is that i felt comfortable with him since he is a jolly person and i can feel that he is serious also in our relationship.
@tobepure (187)
• China
11 Dec 08
wow,it's such a long-time relationship and hope it can last forever! but what i'd like to say is that,you should do things to keep the feelings between you guys.if oneday one of you lose intrest in the other,problems may show up.so just keep the privacy and distance,and torelate as much as you can,if you really want to keep the relationship!
