crying?????

@wheel416 (1019)
Canada
December 11, 2008 6:36pm CST
All right my fellow Mylotters let's talk about crying! Let's face it, I am a crier, I am a bawler through and through. I cry at almost everything that makes me emotional. I cry when I'm sad, I cry when I'm mad, I cry when I'm happy and just about for everything else in between. I am quite comfortable with crying. Others definitely are not, in fact it makes some people down right uncomfortable. So here's what I'd like to hear about, do you cry? When do you cry and why? Do you only cry when you're sad, or do you cry when you're happy as well? Are you comfortable was crying? How comfortable are you with others if they're crying? Finally, what do you do if someone is upset and you're the only one around? Are you uncomfortable, or you try to comfort and support the person? OK.... GO!! Start posting my friends I wanna hear those keyboard keys clickin.... And thanks again for your responses. And Happy Mylotting!
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28 responses
@Zezlol (409)
• United Arab Emirates
12 Dec 08
I cry but not very often. I'm very sensitive but I just don't like tears. I could easily cry when I'm touched, very sad or mad, frustrated, extremely happy, in pain... I guess I'm comfortable with crying, I just don't like people seeing me cry. My best friend catches me turning red a lot (especially since I tear up really fast with movies xD) but I find it embarrassing.=P When others cry around me, I'm don't get uncomfortable because they're not happy or whatever, I'm annoyed because I have no idea how to approach them about it or (if I know what's bugging them) most of the time can't help. I'm not a very good... consoler (that's not a real word but you get what I mean ). I guess that continues into your last two questions. If I was the only one around somebody who was crying, I'd try to cheer them up. I'm not saying I'd do a very good job of it though.. Half the time would probably be us sitting in silence while I think about whether I should even open my mouth or not.
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@heyurock (85)
• United States
15 Dec 08
OMG! It is so wonderful to know that I am not the only person who cries all the time. I cry with certain commercials, cried yesterday at Church because the sermon really touched me. I cried yesterday when I talked to my best friend on the phone because I am so grateful for her friendship. I cry when I am angry, sad, happy, depressed, and so on.....crying is my thing I guess....it drives my husband crazy - he never cries - I could probably count on 2 hands the number of times I have seen him cry in 9 years, but he handles things differently than I do. Sometimes, I wish I weren't so emotional, but then other times, I know that this is just who I am and I have nothing to be ashamed of. I am a crier, and I'll cry if I want to or need to because it's what I do to express my emotion. No, seeing someone cry doesn't make me uncomfortable at all but it does make me want to find out what is the reason behind the tears. Maybe there is something I can do to help this person through a tough time or maybe I can cry and laugh with them if they are happy tears.....it's a win-win if you ask me.
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@sudalunts (5526)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I am a crier as well. I cry because of sadness, happiness, worry, sick, I cry in church, depression you name it. I even cry when other people are sad, happy or sick. I cry when watching TV, if it is a sad sorry or bad news. I do not feel uncomfortable when I or someone else cries. Crying is an emotion, and if you are an emotional person, that is who you are. I will try to comfort someone else who is crying, and in the meantime, I find myself crying for whatever pain they are going through.
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@Nhey16 (2518)
• Philippines
12 Dec 08
oh yes, i always cry, whenever im sad, im alone, at times when im so glad, i also cry for no reasons at all, whenever i feel depressed... and when im very mad, i do cry... i let my emotions out by crying... well, atleast i would feel a bit better when im done. i usually try to comfort the person around me when they are crying, but if its my husband...hmmm... well, it depends on the situation... if we're arguing... well, actually even if we are fighting and to the point that he would cry, i still comfort him, i do have to swallow all my pride and support and comfort him... but i do that coz i do love him...
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• China
12 Dec 08
I am a emotional person,so many things are there can touch my heart,for instance,i don`t want to see some situation that people are so poor,when i see these,my heart will a bit pain,then the tears will flow out.When i am sad badly,i will cry.But i have never cried when i am so happy,the happiness can only make me excited.Crying is a way of keep healthy,when you are so sad,your body will produce so much toxic instance,if you don`t make them out from your body in time,they can be bad for your heathy. If someone is upset and i am the only one around,i will be upset together with her,i will comfort her.
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@dehong (151)
• China
12 Dec 08
don't cry,life is beatiful.you know ,if you cry no one will mind.you must brave.have courage to face the future.if you have dreams,just go to get it.foret upsetand crying.than you will become a happy man.or make some good friends.
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@goodtogo (149)
• Pakistan
12 Dec 08
Well i cry when i'm sad ,but i cry more when i'm happy ..:)
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@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I never really was a crier until I got pregnant with my daughter, and even after having her I am still a crier. It's just sentimental things, things that really tough my heart. Like when I watch extreme makeover and I hear the stories and things that people are going through. It just touches me deeply. I'm not ashamed to cry. When others cry I try to comfort them, well let me rephrase. With women I try to comfort them. Women to women is easier to comfort then women to man. I've seen my fiance cry and tried to comfort him. I don't like seeing men cry. i don't think that men shouldn't cry, it just makes me uncomfortable because I don't really know what to do or say. But overall I think that crying is healthy.
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• Philippines
12 Dec 08
oh what's the use of giving my point of view you will still cry anyway. Just don't let your tears wet your keyboard. kidding aside, as long as crying gives you comfort or better feeling why not cry.
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@Sheepie (3115)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I only really cry when I'm sad. And most of the time, it's not pure sadness, it's frustration. I also don't really cry when someone else has a problem, I really only cry when the problem has something to do with me, otherwise it's just not personal enough for me to be emotional enough to cry, I guess. I'm very uncomfortable with crying. It makes people look red and scrunched up, and it's also really hard to talk while you are crying. It makes me feel so vulnerable if I cry in school, which has happened just a few times but not recently. Plus, I don't really like it when people feel sorry for me. Normally if I'm crying, it's something I can deal with myself, but I just need the release.
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@krfanlim (232)
• Malaysia
12 Dec 08
Ah... finally, this topic sprung up. It's been a question that i'm always curious about the others, too!! Yes, i'm a boy, and i do cry. In fact, there's this stigma around boys that kinda makes people think that we're 'sissy' or weak, or something similar to that, when boys cry. Being a sentimental person, i do get moved by lots of things, such as remembering a very beautiful memory i have, or watching a sad korean soap, they'll all make me weep. But i cry quietly, because it's like what you said, it makes people feel uncomfy and awkward. Basically, i cry much more than my other male peers.
@rsa101 (29031)
• Philippines
12 Dec 08
Well I guess it has something to do about my being man that really is hard for me to just burst into tears. But I do accept that when the situation is just that emotional I can't but avoid to cry. So I think I need a very serious and urgent situation to really burst into tears myself. I attended once a seminar that really pushed me into crying. It was indeed an emotional journey for me that is why I really cried in the seminar and it really helped me relieved of so many stresses that accumulated in me that I thought was not affecting my life. that is why despite it is not easy for me to cry I do believe that we need that to relieve some of the pains, tensions, and stresses that we experience in our lives.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
12 Dec 08
I firmly believe that for a man to cry, shows real strength, simply because of the stigma attached to it. As I said earlier, I find it a wonderful characteristic in my male friends. I wasn't very comfortable with crying either until I was forced into a situation to confront things that were happening in my life at the time. Thank you for your sincere posting.
@mzplased (255)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I am not a crier. About the only time I do is when someone close to me passes away. I dont cry when I am happy either. I do get a bit uncomfortable when I see people crying. Don;t tell him i told you ..lol..but my husband is a very emotional person. Not a big sissy, quite the opposite so I think thats why I feel so uncomfortable. He crys at sad movies, things that make him happy etc. When he cries I tend to look the other way because I feel it might embarress him if I do anything. I would comfort someone if I was the only person around. I'm not a cold person either..LOL I just dont like to cry, and especially NOT in front of anyone.
@wheel416 (1019)
• Canada
12 Dec 08
Now there is a bit of a role reversal. lol The truth be told, I kinda like a man that can admit he's sensitive. That means he's confident enough in himself to show that side. So, instead of finding a man a "sissy", I would be rather impressed. Thank you for your honesty in your response.
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• China
15 Dec 08
I cry when I feel sad,disappointed and so happy~~~ I think crying is a way to loose my emotion. But I'm afraid that others crying beside me~I don't know what can I do !!!
@anyoung (75)
• India
13 Dec 08
Hi friend, I would like to tell you at first that crying is not at all bad, If you are in some dilemma or state of anger than crying helps you control such emotions by expressing it. On the other hand, some people have more capability of controlling their emotions than others, but its their nature.
@dehong (151)
• China
13 Dec 08
oh my friend.crying is a good thing.if you have some unhappy thing just crying.but i tell myself nobody can see my tears any more.if you cry only youself care about it .so i am thinking there's no need cry,if you want to cry don't tell anybody.you can master yourself,trust me.
• India
13 Dec 08
oh yes even I cry when it hurts my heart. But I am not comfortable crying in front of everyone. I have my own world of crying. This inturn upset nobody. But If I cry infront of my loved ones they will feel bad. But crying one way is good for health. You should not keep your emotion inside locked. This affects our health. If someone is upset I try to make them comfortable & if if they feel like crying, i give my sholder to them but never stop them crying.
@vanonas (950)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I am a crybaby! Oh my goodness I cry about everything! Hahaha. At least when I'm really mad and can't say the words I want to say or something really ticks me off. My face gets hot and I start tearing up. Or when I get in a fight with my boyfriend. I cry happy tears sometimes too like when I was graduating high school and listening to all the speeches the administrators were giving. It was so memorable. But i most definitely am a crier too. You're not alone!
• United States
12 Dec 08
I cry although not a lot. I have never figured out why it seems to be more embarrassing to me when I cry out of sadness then when I cry when I am happy. I would think it should be the other way around
12 Dec 08
i have never found myself to be uncomfortable when i cry. i mean its something everybody does or atleast i hope. i think it is good for you to cry at least every once in a while. i cry when im sad mostly, i cry when i get to excited or overwhelmed and i tear up sometimes when i get really mad because i cant control my emotions when im mad. there have been times when im around someone who is crying where i wasnt really uncomfortable but didnt really know what to say to them to make them feel better so it might feel a lil weird but not uncomfortable. if im the only one there i definitly try to comfort the person and support them. i do anything i can to make them feel better if i can.