Long Distance Relationship

@Zerric (72)
India
December 12, 2008 12:20pm CST
well i just got into one.....and i really like her...and she likes me too ( :) she's my wifey)...but i may not be able to see her for a long time......maybe like once in 2 months for about 4 years.....I wanna kno if any1 else has a similar problem...and how do you deal with it?
2 responses
bludevilsgal
@bludevilsgal (36)
• United States
12 Dec 08
I was in a Long Distance Relationship for almost 3 years (still in the same relationship just not long distance any more). I met my now husband over 3 years ago online playing poker on pokerstars.com. He's from the middle of England and I'm from Pennsylvania. We talked online for 10 months before meeting in person. The distance killed me. When we didn't meet in person yet the distance wasn't horrible because I didn't know what it was like to really be with him. Once he came to meet me in person the goodbye after our first summer together was just terrible. Something I wouldn't wish on any body! Being away from him was a nightmare. but I really learned a lot about myself during that time, It made me realize how much I loved him and needed him. It made us grow as a couple. If you can withstand the distance your relationship can withstand almost anything that comes in its way. But LDRs do take alot of work/effort, trust, communication, love, faith, commitment and optimism. My advise is to always put time aside for each other, no matter how busy your schedule. Even if it's just an email or a text to tell her that your thinking about her. What's worse then being apart is not talking too. so always have some form of communication every day. Also send cards and letters. And surround yourself with pictures of all the good times you've had together. Have a countdown of when you'll next be together, it always helps to make the time go by just a little bit closer. Always keep in mind the distance is not forever. And a Webcam is a must!!! Skype is a life saver. and LDR message boards help when times get really tough.
Zerric
@Zerric (72)
• India
12 Dec 08
see....the thing is i'm in this relationship with a girl i've met in real life...that's going well.....i live in India, btw..... anyway there was this other girl that i met in a game......and she just seemed so perfect..... well let me tell you my story............ so i met her in the game....u can get married in the game btw....anyway so i met her when she was still new....and we started hanging out and stuff....but i was already married....and i didn't want to hurt my wife....so we kinda made it like an affair thing....we always had a plan on meeting in real life....after college for me(4 years) i thot i'd do my Post Graduation in the US with her....(she's 3 years older btw)....so i committed totally to her...without ever meeting her at all.....and we always got along well....then one day she was like: i'm getting married in the game,but i made it clear to him that it's only in the game and i was like ok.....and then a couple of days later she told me that he liked her in rl and that she didn't kno what 2 do....next thing i kno she adds him on facebook and stuff.....and then slowly it started feeling like she was drifting away from me.....and so i confronted her.. all i did was ask her to tell me she likes her...which she didn't want to be forced to do....so i took everything i ever gave to her, back....and the fight kinda escalated from that point...... and then i felt like i was lost inside....like i put too much into something that just wouldn't last.......and i always felt guilt that it may have been my fault that she left............and right now i have no clue how to get over this.....
ashish_answer
@ashish_answer (784)
• India
12 Dec 08
Well.. am single and has never been in such a situation. But, one thing I can bet the relations are always sweet when they are at longer distance. So I am damn sure you will surely enjoy this.