Help! How do I get a relationship with a guy?

United States
December 12, 2008 9:10pm CST
I really have been single for a long time now. I am 27, and have never been married. I know this isn't really super-old, but my biological clock is really ticking. I am starting to wonder if something is wrong with me, really. I see lots of girls who aren't beautiful either with men. My only requirement is that a man be somewhat intelligent, and I have to be attracted enough to him to kiss him. I just can never "close" the relationship. Shoot. I can never even keep the relationship. I usually can't have a relationship for over three weeks. Do you girls and guys have any real relationship advice. How do I get and keep one?
7 responses
• United States
22 Dec 08
If you ever are attracted to someone(at a party, club, whatever) don't try to be all over them, talk to them. Try to have fun and guys will come to you.
@Ladybugs (404)
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
You just have to wait for the right guy for you to come. And the next time you will be in a relationship, keep and treasure it. While you're in a relationship, you should be willing to know the guy you are with. His strengths and weaknesses, his good and bad traits and be willing to accept him for who he is. If he is lacking in some aspects, be willing to help him. You should help one another to make the relationship work, to enjoy your relationship in any way you can... Just feel his presence, and treasure him... Just don't give up easily for a guy. If you quarrel, just think that tomorrow or the other day, it will be just fine. Don't give too high standard for a guy. Because real love, must not set a standard. We must love a person for who he is, and not for what we want them to be. He or she can kiss you, because he will feel to do it. Just show your real self to a guy. The real you, and the guy who will understand you the way you are, will be the right guy for you,too...
• United States
14 Dec 08
Well, to meet a guy you just have to out, maybe with a couple friends, go places, talk and socialise with people. To keep a relationship, complaining is a big NO. Just be nice, be with them often. Since you like intelligent guys, I'd sugest finding guys at intelicetual places, not like a bar or a pool hall. Just try to have inner beauty, and make friends with guys first, then they might be attracted to you once they get to know you.:]
@Savvynlady (3685)
• United States
13 Dec 08
Before you do get into a relationship, ask yourself if you have a good one with yourself? that way, when you do meet someone, they can't disturb you or try to alter you in anyway. With that said, I don't think 27 is over the hill. I can understand your concern to be with someone, but make sure you get with someone that shares your values and beliefs and wants to be with you and give you love and support. You have some men that want to change you. That's not for you. Attraction is good, but I tend to feel that if you fall for someone, fall for someone who loves you for you! is there for you when you need him to be there for you. Not no fair weather friend or something. There are books you can get on dealing with relationships and how to get one and all that. Check Amazon.com for that. hope this helps.
• China
13 Dec 08
maybe i will get same kind of thing like you soon .The problem is not the prety or not ,but the problen that we don't konw how to comminicate with men,so maybe you can ask your male friend and maybe you can get the answers.
@dr_sans (59)
• India
13 Dec 08
hi only beauty matters it is of two types external beauty ,u can change it by a small regular exercises,diet n make up. internal beauty it is the beauty of ur heart ie ur soul be pure in relation to other never betray a person if u are best in ur personality any one likes u do u know why god created gaps between our fingers bcoz someone somewhere made for u will fill those gaps all the best u will find ur soul mate soon
@modstar (9608)
• Philippines
13 Dec 08
Make a major make over physically. If you think you're beautiful enough then i think you should try to innovate. You know like change your hairstyles. You should to get out too like go to clubs but don't expect too much. Just enjoy the night. Increase your chances of meeting men. I can see you're a smart girl too and i'm confident you'll meet someone you'll keep forever.