Have You Ever Been Involved With A Married Man/Woman?

United States
December 13, 2008 11:09pm CST
I have to be totally honest and say, "yes, I have". It isn't something that I am proud of but it is something that I have done. I know I can't be the only one out there who has been with someone who was already married. Have you ever been involved with a married person before? Or are you currently involved with a married person?
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36 responses
• United States
14 Dec 08
Yep, been there and done that. The whole situation goes highly unrecommended from me. I have even done it more than once because I believed "this time is different". It's never different. Don't do it.
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• United States
14 Dec 08
Very good advice. I think we always think that there is some way to justify the situation or think that it will eventually turn out to be good, but it never does. Thanks for the comment!
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• Argentina
14 Dec 08
Not married, but engaged and living with the guy. The thing is, the day I found out about her engagement, was the same day her fiance found out, she was cheating on him. It wasn't pretty. The good thing is that they eventually did get married. Well, good for her and bad for him, I reckon, as I don't think cheaters ever change. So yeah, I've done it without knowledge, I wouldn't do it knowingly though. Women are troublesome enough without an angry husband chasing me down the street. Rich
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• United States
14 Dec 08
Richard, Thanks for the input from the male gender! Keeps this discussion from turning into a complete male-bashing-fest! LOL!!! Happy MyLotting!
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• United States
14 Dec 08
I totally agree Princess!
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@CharRay7 (1549)
• United States
14 Dec 08
Well, let's see...does it count if both are married? I can't say I'm proud of it, but yes I have and am still. I was engaged to him 30 years ago. In the 30 years, he's been married twice, I've been married twice and we are both married now to other people. I'm not saying this is a good thing, but evidentaly we're not getting what we need in our current marriages. We've seen each other off and on for the past 30 years but for the last two it's been more often and more serious. We both know that divorce for either of us is not in the near future. He has young kids and I can't because of my financial situation. And life goes on..... Happy MyLotting! Char
@j47lee (741)
• Canada
14 Dec 08
hmm.. getting involved with a married man/woman.... nope i dont think i would ever ever do that.. it would be like breaking up someoneelse's whole family... i have gone through this with my parents..... and it causes alot of heartache.. and i would never do it to someone else..... the pain cheating causes affects not only to the partner but the children. and i think children suffer the most in this....
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• United States
14 Dec 08
Two of Hearts - We learn about relationships between men and women mostly by watching our parents...which means, our children are learning from us based on what WE are doing.
j47lee, It really does effect the children the worst. A man I once knew was married 14 years and was having an affair for 6 of those and now is 18 and 10 year old daughters won't have anything to do with him. He cheated on his mistress anyway and now has another daughter (2 years old) that is probably going to grow-up not wanting anything to do with him either. I can't help but wonder what his two older daughters have learned about relationships from him. Happy MyLotting!
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@palonghorn (5483)
• United States
14 Dec 08
been there done that, been a long time since that adventure. and wouldn't ever do it again. they are not going to leave their wife........don't care how convincing they sound. and the 'i love yous' just gets them what they want, and what you want to hear.
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• United States
14 Dec 08
Yes, I have found that most men always say what they know you want to hear, especially married men. Thanks for commenting!
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@pitsay (173)
• Philippines
14 Dec 08
Yes i have, but not intimately, and not with malicious intend, only i was involved because were friends, though his wife doesn't like us to be close because shes suspecting something wrong is going on between us. But for honest truth were just friends. And though i hate my husband sometimes, i wouldn't and couldn't cheat on him.
• India
14 Dec 08
No, I have never been in such a situation. In fact I try to avoid being in realtion with a girl who is already in relation but not married.
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@mgmagana (3621)
• United States
14 Dec 08
no i haven't, i have been with the same man since i was 14, so i haven't had the opportunity to really be with anyone else, but given the opportunity i don't know what i would do honestly. i wouldn't want to be a "homewrecker" but never say never.
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• United States
14 Dec 08
singlemommy, Yes, I WAS involved with a married man, but didn't know he was married until after he'd gotten me pregnant. When I found-out he was seeing another woman, I called his ex-wife who told me she was not his ex and that she knew about the other woman, which is why she was divorcing him. That's actually how I became a single mommy myself! Happy MyLotting!
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• United States
14 Dec 08
That is sort of the same situation I had with my son's father. He was married but told me that he was separated and getting a divorce. I thought he was living with his mother when in fact he was still living with his wife at her parents house. What a dummy I was to believe that he was getting a divorce. I also got pregnant with my son. I was already a single mom with my daughter, but that relationship turned me into a single mom of two. Thanks for the comment!
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• United States
14 Dec 08
He told me that he had been legally separated for two years and was living with his parents. He WAS living with his parents, but his wife had kicked him out of the house the month before because he wanted to keep his mistress. They had been married for 14 years and he and his mistress had been together for 6. His wife finally got fed-up just before I met him! LOL!!! That was the same month his mistress went out of town, which is why he had so much time for me. He got me pregnant on purpose too...he was trying for a son. He has two other daughters and his mistress is in her mid 50's so she's not having any more. Happy MyLotting!
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• United States
14 Dec 08
So, did you have a son? Does he have anything to do with the child? My son's father isn't involved in his life at all. It is probably a good thing because I don't think he would be the best influence.
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• India
14 Dec 08
hey actually it a wrong thing to be involve with married person.but if she is not satisfied with her husband then you can involue some what chance you can take but it is one of the mistake to be with married person it a illegal things.My advice is seat with that married person and talk clearly about this matter...
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@piya84 (2586)
• India
3 Feb 09
You are absolutely right.Its sin to get involve with married person.If they really want someone else then they should take divorce properly before approaching any one else.
• Australia
17 Dec 08
I have, but it was an unusual situation. Normally I steer well clear, but in this case I connected with a woman online who was seeking a Dominant to submit to (the BDSM scene). She had been going to swinger's clubs for her husband's sake, but didn't really get a lot from that, so she struck a bargain with him: she would continue to go along with him to the clubs if he allowed her to seek out a Master, which he did. Not only was he aware of me, he would pick her up from my place after work, and he and I would discuss the photos I took of his wife during our sessions. Complete awareness by the other partner does, I think, remove most of the problems from the interaction. Lash
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• Netherlands
28 Jan 09
Yes one time I was with a man I knew was married. His wife did it to him all the time and she even at one point took all of the things from the house and moved to another man's house. Though she was back in his house and with him supposedly I did not feel bad about it. I did not much care for her anyway. Another time I met up with a guy and went on a few dates then I found out he was married and hiding it. I stopped seeing him because I didn't want to be involved in that situation. I know I did it one other time but I KNEW the entire situation with that one and that even if that woman would have found out it wouldn't have mattered as she did it all the time.... Not that it is good excuse just I would never be involved with another married man.
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@laydee (12811)
• Philippines
28 Jan 09
Oh yeah, better a relationship with lesser complications.
@RitaGreen (141)
• United States
15 Dec 08
The only answer to this question for me is yes. There really isn't a need to go into great detail. It happened, but I am not sorry.
• United States
15 Dec 08
You have a good look on it Rita. You can't change what has happened or what will happen, so why try to explain it to someone else. Thanks for commenting!
@TessWhite (3147)
• United States
14 Dec 08
I guess I'd have to say yes also. But, the guy I was involved with told me he was in the middle of his divorce - so I considered him single. Then one weekend he stayed at my place his daughter (a child) called me at home and asked me to send Daddy back home that Mommy missed him! I was shocked. Apparently this jerk had affairs all the time. So often in fact that he told his wife (whom he WASN'T divorcing) where he would be when he was so busy cheating! Needless to say I tossed him out on his ear and never saw him again. To me someone who is in the process of getting divorced and living alone (which this guy wasn't I found out) is fair game. Otherwise I'd never have gotten involved with him to start with.
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• United States
14 Dec 08
OMG, I can't believe they would let their own daughter be in the middle of this either. That is so disrespectful for the child. Thanks for the comment!
• United States
29 Dec 08
Yes, I am not proud of it now and I don't believe that I would do it again. But, yes, I was intimately involved with a married man. He was good to me and we wanted to be together but it just was not possible at the time.
@lynnemg (4536)
• United States
24 Dec 08
I can honestly say that the only married man I have ever been involved with is my own husband.
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@kg4bah (78)
• United States
24 Dec 08
No way, I would not want to be labled as a homewrecker. Messing around with a married man will get you nowhere, except into trouble. I understand there are cases where the woman doesn't know the man is married and those issues lay within the man, but once you find out the guy is married, back away.
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@sharra1 (6341)
• Australia
18 Dec 08
Not to my knowledge. I did encounter one man who admitted he was married and I would not go out with him, well I did not like him anyway but I would not help him cheat on his wife knowing that this was what he wanted to do. However, meeting him put me on the alert and I was suspicious of any guy I dated who did not to be seen out in public with him etc.
@reinydawn (11649)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Yup, I have. I instigated it, I knew he was married and it was for one thing only I didn't want to "date" him and I didn't want him to leave his wife. I got what I wanted out of it and after a while it became a hassle to try to hook up so we both agreed to end it. We were still friendly after that, just like we were before. At that time in my life it fulfilled a need for me, but it's not something I'd do again or have done again.
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@cameo22 (200)
• India
15 Dec 08
yes i have the experiance.after my marriage i never i'm keep my honesty to my wife