When the perfect couple splits

I don't think that people were ever the perfect couple if they split. Often times it is just the appearance of perfection that is being displayed for their friends and family to see. This is not because they want to lie to everyone but because often times husbands and wives want to keep their differences and their troubles behind closed doors to work on as it is the business of no one else. My husband and I were the perfect example of that. I think I almost gave my family a heart attack when I announced we are getting divorced. They almost looked at me as though I must have done something awful because they saw our relationship as perfect. Of course on paper it was. To the outside world: I was a stay at home mom with two kids. He was an educated professional working full time for Merryll Lynch and also attending online school to further his education. We had two newer cars in the driveway and just bought a house about a year and a half ago. We seemed "happy and normal" during holiday visits and phone calls. But that was because our personal business was our personal business. On the inside: He drank way too much...ignored the children...would tell me on a daily basis how he regrets them being around because they take away time he could be spending with just me. We never spoke unless it was an arguement. We hardly slept in the same room during the last few months we were together. Oh yea, he was also on craigslist looking for "fun partners" (if ya know what I mean) So we were anything but perfection although everyone on the outside thought we were.