could someone teach me how to talk with girls?

China
December 15, 2008 10:30am CST
i don't know why.everytime i speak to a girl, especially first time meet,i am nervous, and i lost my tongue.or some stupid words comes out.it seems that i don't have the talent...could someone give me some tips?
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@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
I wish I could give you the tips you need. Unfortunately after several cases of males misusing the tips or techniques, I decided not to be too open on this topic. I do not want to be partly responsible for girls being misled. Nevertheless I may change my mind in the future. One tip - look at the girl as someone you want to know as a potential friend, not as someone marked as a possible lover. This should make it easy to start a conversation. Initially do not expect long conversations. A single question like "why have you not eaten?" should be sufficient. Do not expect a verbal answer. A slight smile is a sign that you are on the right track. all the best, rosdimy
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• China
16 Dec 08
please.if you have good tips,just tell me. i am 25 and i don't even go out with girls yet. actually i am not bad looking,i just don't know why?sometimes,i even fear that i will die lonely.please tell me more
@rosdimy (3936)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
Try the suggestion that I have given above. Casual questions usually work better. Initial talks should be on something she can relate to. Avoid trying to give a big impression because this can scare a girl away. all the best, rosdimy
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
15 Dec 08
Don't try to be perfect,I think you should relax.I met guys in my life who lost their tongues from the first conversation and showed how nervous they were.That's bad.Don't know what to say?Listen to her, relax, smile, try eye contact,touch her hand, show you really like her.Sometimes those non-verbal signals work for you better than monologues about pets or movies.Relax, use body language. ;)
• China
15 Dec 08
is it awkward to see her eyes while talking?
• Lithuania
15 Dec 08
Golden rule is:not too long.It is said that if you look in someone's eyes longer than 5 seconds,you make person feel uncomfortable.
• China
15 Dec 08
really? thank you very much.i will have a try(*^_^*)
• United States
16 Dec 08
All i can say is be your self.
• China
16 Dec 08
i like history and philosophy.every time i talk these things,they seem no interested at all.to find out why, i am studying some psycholoy.maybe that will help
@Shar1979 (2723)
• United States
15 Dec 08
Girls easily get turned off with guys who are tongue-tied or shy. I suggest that you start mingling more with people and make yourself be comfortable. You don't have to pretend somebody you're not. It will make you more stressed out in front of women.
• China
15 Dec 08
a sigh. we talk less ,that dosen't mean we are not good.i need time and practice. where's my girl in destiny
@vidhyavini (6112)
• India
15 Dec 08
Haha. Crazy topic. Just talk as if you talk to your friends. Are you in love with that gal??? I suggest you to join a PTP site which discusses about Love and the relationship. You can earn for that. Lol. $5 is the payout in that site. It needs only 167 posts to reach that. If you are interested, add me.
• China
15 Dec 08
it is no kidding.i am a chinese boy.i am taught to be shy. i scared a lot of girls away.i try to understand what means a lot them.but it seems not easy.