From 'Bestfriend' to 'Cold rival'

Brunei Darussalam
December 15, 2008 2:16pm CST
Do you have any experience when your bestfriends can become your rival in less than a month? When I was in the 6th grade, he was my bestfriend. Then, a month later, we started to distant apart from each other. Now, he became an arrogant person. Yet, he never expressed his arrogance in front of me. But still, I can feel like there's a cold war developing between me and him. I can see the way he acts when he talks to me that he is looking down at me with his arrogance. What do you think? Am a jerk or what? Should I continue this friendship or destroy it?
5 responses
@spalladino (17922)
• United States
16 Dec 08
No, you're not a jerk. People change...especially when you're growing from a sixth grader to an adult...and someone you got along with then isn't necessarily someone you can get along with anymore. I had a couple of friends who changed like that, at around the same age too, so it's not unusual. You should only have friends who treat you well. No one deserves to be treated badly by anyone.
• United States
16 Dec 08
You're not being a jerk, but it seems like he is. I feel like you should cut ties with him. Because if y'all keep hanging around each other, that resentment is just going to fester and grow, and then you'll probably end up getting into a huge confrontation. It doesn't mean that you're a bad person because you stop being friends with him, but it will cut down on a lot of problems.
• United States
15 Dec 08
I think you should evaluate the situation. Is there anything that has changed in either of your lives that could have caused a problem in your friendship? If something did occur, maybe you could discuss the sitation and solve the problem. If nothing has changed, maybe you should evaluate your friendship. Friends are supposed to be supportive and caring and if your 'friend' no longer fits in these categories, maybe you should end the relationship.
@anyoung (75)
• India
15 Dec 08
No not at all, if he is your best friend just go to him and talk to him about everything you feel about this scenario politely and try to sought out the things otherwise you will regret this later because this kind of thing has happened with me too.
@misspipsi (237)
• Bulgaria
15 Dec 08
No,I don`t think you are a jerk.But I believe he might be.I mean he became a jerk or he just got into the SPECIAL age-when you start being a person.Maybe he has problems in his personal life.The hole has started to open between you and it`s time to decide-do you want to save your friendship or not?Maybe you could delicate as what changed between you...Why did you became from Bestfriend to cold rival?