Alone with the kids
By rosdimy
@rosdimy (3926)
Malaysia
December 15, 2008 9:11pm CST
Last night I did not have enough sleep because the youngest offspring yearned for his mother. She left home in the morning to go for a 4 days 3 nights holiday with her female and male colleagues at Bukit Tinggi, Sumatra, Indonesia.
This is not the first time she went for an overseas holiday with her colleagues. As for local trips the number is big. Since she had already gone to Jakarta I asked her not to go this time. My words fell on deaf ears. The trip was not compulsory, but she has always been the type of woman who likes enjoying life with other people. We are still together partly because of the kids, and partly because I dislike to cut off a relationship at a drop of a hat.
Two more nights to go and I have to prepare myself for further sleep deprivation.
3 responses
@morningstar369 (495)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Sorry to hear thaat. I know just how hard it is to go without sleep. I recently got robbed of some well needed sleep because I had to get up early and get out of here. Some inspector was going to come here and I am not supposed to be here. I was told at the l;ast minte and had it all planned. For some reason the woman I am staying with got it in her head that I needed to be up an hour and a half before I actually needed to. So She turned on her tv ans turned up the sound. So I went to get my earplugs out then in and went back to sleep and woke up with the alarm. I went through the day very sleepy because of that. It was a bad thing and I feel sorry that you have little ones to have to be there for and so sleepy. Maybe you can come to some understanding with your wife. I hope you can get some sleep.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
For the past few years I have an irregular sleep pattern. Most of the time it was due to my own choice. The reason it is happening now is bugging me to a certain extent. Even though we are in the middle of year end school holidays it does not mean she can go anywhere she wants to. The trip is completely voluntary. Its purpose is to enjoy themselves. It is not s study trip. Furthermore this year alone she had been away from several days to one week for more than three times. Quality time spent with the family is negligible.
Actually several people including her aunt had spoken to her about her attitude and behaviour towards her own family. All the words fell on deaf ears.
Thank you for your response.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy@morningstar369 (495)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Ok I see now tht this is a problem that has been going on for some times. How many children do you have? I bet they really miss their mommy. I am sorry that you are having this kind of trouble. You are a good Father to take such good care of your children. I know some men would not do this. Maybe it's time for you to have a serious talk with your Wife to let her understand that this is not working for you and the children. Business trips are one thing for fun trips are not. I can understand needing to get away for some R and R. I would think getting family to care for the children and you and your wife take the trip together, would make more sense. I hope you can work things out.
@4mymak (1793)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
wow.. you are really such a sport - letting your wife off like that..
me.. i cant even go and have tea with my friends peacefully... my dear husband would be 'chasing after' me to hurry home...
but.. it's nice to know that your children get to bond with their dad a lot more.. 
(* hope you'll sleep better tonite 
)
(* hope you'll sleep better tonite )@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
I may be a sport but this cannot go on forever. My schoolmates called me 'robot' but deep inside I still have a small human heart. Several of the kids are old enough to understand what exactly went on and she claimed I brainwashed them.
Your husband must be a typical male Malay chauvinist. It is alright for him to go out with female colleagues or friends but the spouse cannot do the same thing.
Thank you for your response and wish on me.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy
@jordan04n (463)
• United States
16 Dec 08
Well, Ros, You wrote this for a reason. So here I go again and please take nothing I say personally. What a woman to have all her Christmas/holiday tasks in order and even take a holiday trip to boot. I can only wonder what it would be like to go anywhere without a family member. I confess I did take a trip to Seattle alone to visit #1 son, wife and two children one who I had never seen. It was a great trip and I would do it again. Before I retired I adored my colleagues as well, yet not enough to take me away from my family especially at this most wonderful time of the year. Who would host our annual Christmas party? We were 30 yrs. in the Military and was away from family enough for me. I love Christmas and love to share every bit of it it many ways. This season is to short for me. I could do so much more with another week. Get some sleep. Tomorrow is another day Scarlet. Life is too short as it is. Do some fun things with the children while she is gone. We love to drive around looking at lights, voting on our favorite and eating fudge, watching old Christmas movies etc. Memories are fun to make. Mwrry Christmas
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
16 Dec 08
I rarely take things personally, so do not worry about it. I am not against my spouse going for a holiday but she has already made many trips with her friends. The youngest is still bre*st feeding though luckily not all the time. The psychological impact on the children need to be taken into consideration too. Sometimes she wonder aloud why most of the children are closer to me.
Thank you for your response and Merry Christmas.
all the best,
rosdimy
rosdimy