Help me dael with my Jealousy

Jealousy typically refers to the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that occur when a person believes a valued relationship is being threatened by a rival. The word jealousy stems from the French jalousie, formed from jaloux (jealous), and further from Low Latin zelosus (full of zeal), and from the Greek word for "ardour, zeal" (with a root connoting "to boil, ferment"; or "yeast"). Jealousy is a familiar experience in human relationships. It has been reported in every culture and in many forms where researchers have looked. [1] [2] [3] It has been observed in infants as young as 5-6 months old and in adults over 65 years old. [4] [5] [6] [7] It has been an enduring topic of interest for scientists, artists, and theologians. Psychologists have proposed several models of the processes underlying jealousy and have identified individual differences that influence the expression of jealousy. Sociologists have demonstrated that cultural beliefs and values play an important role in determining what triggers jealousy and what constitutes socially acceptable expressions of jealousy. Biologists have identified factors that may unconsciously influence the expression of jealousy. Artists have explored the theme of jealousy in photographs, paintings, movies, songs, plays, poems, and books. Theologians have offered religious views of jealousy based on the scriptures of their respective faiths. Despite its familiarity, however, people define jealousy in different ways. Some even mislabel it as being protective of something or someone, when the fact is, it's really simply possessive jealousy itself; and many feel they don't possess effective strategies for coping with this form of jealousy. [8]

Unless there are valid reasons to feel mistrust, I would say trust your hubby more, and get to know his friends. You never know, you can make some real great friends in the process. Why not have them over for dinner or drinks?

That is a tough one because you don't want those feelings to come out, yet they do. In my opinion the only way to get over this is your discipline. When the situation comes, you have to mentally repress those feelings. It's hard to explain but when I was having a hard time with this, I just got so fed up with how much energy I was expending being jealous, I somehow just stopped. Sometimes when those feelings start to creep up, I have so much control it doesn't bother me. Try doing something to help with your confidence. My suggestion and I suggest this a lot because it helped me, take up a martial art, I took up Kung Fu.

A lot of people say Jealousy is normal, but I don't think so. Especially when it's at the point it's causing problems in your relationship. If you love your husband than you should trust him and there's no need to worry about his female friends. There's no reason for you to feel jealous because you trust him. If your having jealous feelings then you probabbly don't trust him and shouldn't be in a relationship with someone you can't trust.

Jealousy is usually a signal of something needing fixing, and ignoring that usually only makes things worse. I would suggest asking yourself "What do I feel insecure about?" Do I feel unattractive or uninteresting myself? Do I doubt the other persons love for me? Their physical attraction? Do I doubt that I can have the type of relationship I want? Once you've figured out what the core discomfort is, then it's appropriate to ask yourself if your fears are well-founded. If it is, perhaps talking to your partner about what you are afraid of and why you believe your fears are well-founded makes sense. In some cases, the insecurity is not founded on realistic dangers to the relationship. If that is really the case, then you (the jealous partner) may wish to consider where your insecurities are coming from. Solving those sorts of insecurities isn't easy, but until you do you'll continue to face those feelings. Since we tend to become more secure in relationships as they become more stable with time, you may find that time is your ally in dealing with jealousy.

You have to trust your husband. I had a big issue with trust when I first met my dh, but now I have learned that he is faithful and will always be. Does your hubby give you reasons to not trust him or is it a personal thing?

jealousy is your belief that others are better than you.