Acceptance.

@Pose123 (21665)
Canada
December 16, 2008 6:27pm CST
Most of us want to be accepted for who we are, but are we always ready to give that acceptance to another? Life is a two way street and we should never expect what we are unable to give. What do you think?
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9 responses
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Just like when I tell my husband something. I am not going to ask him to do something that I wouldn't do myself, in the same situation. Recently I had a discussion with my mother regarding some super religious relatives who do not drink, and as such Mom was not going to allow us to drink in their presence. We chose to avoid the situation, since we did not want to be in the company of people who would not accept us as we were, and that we were not going to be the ones to compromise 100%. They needed to come a way too. Drinks should have been served, they could have just chosen not to drink.
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@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Hi danishcanadian, You are absolutely right, no one is better than another and no one should compromise 100%. Good for you and thanks for coming here. Blessings.
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@Sreekala (32787)
• India
19 Dec 08
We are human beings and we have our own plus and minus points. By understanding this fact I think we can manage many problems but infact many are not ready to accept other's faults. You are right, we are simply not ready to accept others. But if somebody neglects us, it will hurt us then also we never learn a lesson. I think we behave to others like, how we wanted to treat by others. A meaningful post, and thank you for the same.
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@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
19 Dec 08
Hi sreekala, Thank you for responding, we agree. Blessings.
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@williamjisir (22900)
• China
18 Dec 08
Hello Pose. It is well said that life is a two-way street and that we should never expect what we are unable to give. Thank you for the discussion, Pose.
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@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
18 Dec 08
Hi williamjisir, Thank you for commenting, I agree. Blessings.
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17 Dec 08
I think the word acceptance is applicable to our own self. If we can't accept who and what we are then how can we expect somebody to accept us? You're right that life is a two way street. But then some people don't find it that way, they are more likely to be accepted than to accept themselves and to accept somebody. But that's just a way of life for some people.
@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Vert true lovelyvelle, some people cant't accept themselves and thanks for adding that. Blessings.
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@Mirita (2668)
• United States
17 Dec 08
You have a good point because is hard to accept certain people ,but we tend to demand so much from others.
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@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Hi Mirita, Thank you for that comment and it's very true. Blessings.
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@Roseo8 (2947)
• India
17 Dec 08
Regarding the question of accepting others ,all I can see is if the person is some one like ,then I am ready to accept the person with all his plus and minus points.But if the person is not close to me then I put him on hold and tend to be critical.And regarding life,I have long accepted that our life is like a boat that is flowing in stormy waters.As far as possible we must try to direct it and steer it away from stormy waters.But there are moments when making a decision is difficult or may appear biased.Then I just either make a rash decision and prepare myself to accept come what may.And sometimes I just meekly flow along the tide and accept what ever life has in store for me.....
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@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Hi Rose, Thanks for commenting. I too have found people with whom I have little in common and who for some reason seem to repel me. I try not to be critical but unless I see a way to help them I just leave them alone while I search for what I can learn from them or the reason they have entered my life. Blessings.
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• India
17 Dec 08
Hmm... I have become a bit fussy recently Pose. I was quite an accepting, adjusting person till I realized how others were literally killing me with their expectations of what they felt I ought to be. In other words, the day I realized that people did not really care for what I was, I stopped being so "accepting" of the way they behaved. Anyway, I get what you mean. In a way, you are right...but I guess, one can't take it to the extreme. Cheers and happy Mylotting
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@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Hi positiveminded, Thanks for that response and of course you do make a good point. It is probably those 'others' that you mention who need to read this discussion. Blessings friend.
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• United States
17 Dec 08
You know, on a popular reality show one of the contestants said they had to spend time with people they normally wouldn't ever talk to. What kind of attitude is this? It's a sad condition that a lot of people live in their isolated little pockets and only associate with their own kind. We all have something to offer each other and need to accept and celebrate our differences. We are all connected after all.
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@Pose123 (21665)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
Hi Iconoclast1, Thank you for commenting and I agree with you. Blessings.
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• United States
23 Dec 08
That is absolutely true. If you aren't willing to accept others as they are, then you shouldn't expect others to accept you as you are. Conversely, those that are unable to accept people as they are usually have issues with themselves that they haven't been able to deal with. Before you can accept others as they are, you have to love yourself.