Does lust complement love?

Philippines
December 17, 2008 12:17am CST
I admit that I am not anymore warm and hot with my girlfriend as before. I am not now attracted much by her physical looks. She notices it and starts complaining and tell that I don't love her much anymore. But I think I still love her just the same. How will I handle it?
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@Frederick42 (2024)
• Canada
17 Dec 08
If you really love her, then you will have to be romantic towards her because she demands it and as a lover, it is your duty to fulfil her demands. Of course, lust is not a necessary ingrdient in love, but when the partner demands it, it is not correct to refuse it.
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
17 Dec 08
Lust does not complement love. This is my current opinion based on observations. Lust can exist by itself without love. Many examples can be given to attest the previous statement. Love is a kind of feeling that can be expressed in various ways and physical union is not the best expression. In your case try to have a slow talk with her. Start by asking why she feels you do not love as much as you used to. Your response should be based on the answer given. Avoid being defensive by using sentences like "But I was only..." because she would then go on the defensive. Thus neither of you can get through the other person's shield. Ask questions so she would spill out everything that is in her heart. Knowing exactly what is bugging her can help a lot in guiding her to see love from a different perceptive. all the best, rosdimy
@n30wing (4767)
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
Well my fiancee ask me that question too. But I just answer her straight to her eyes I love you more each day. The difference is she doesn't complain, but usually quiet. Well what I do I hug her tight, I think they ask this question when we luck attention to our partner. Women are very sensitive. We just can't tell also that they are getting bored or getting to be routinary with what we show them. This 21st I promise her that I'll take her out where somewhere we haven't been to. Something diferent huh! I'll give her my time and attention. Have a nice day to you!
@srganesh (6340)
• India
17 Dec 08
So,she lost her charm towards you.Is it because you had some datings and went serious to a lay?Are you now aware what is benath her dresses and now you expect her to impress intellectually?If this is going to continue,sure you are losing interest on her and one day or other you are going to leave her.Since your girlfriend can smell the difference(girls are more intuitional),she complains the difference.It is high time,you have to self analyse yourself.Have a good day!