Betrayed

Kenya
December 17, 2008 8:55am CST
Hello myLotters, have you ever been betrayed by someone you thought was your very good friend. Was it a case of backbiting or pure jealousy?
4 responses
• United States
17 Dec 08
Oh god yes. It happened recently. Like 3 weeks ago. It hurted cause I known this person for 6 years. And I thought that she was better then that. But like the old saying goes you never know about a person sometimes. But oh well I just have to move on and forward. Would I ever become her friend again? I honestly don't know and if I do I already know it won't be the same.
• Kenya
18 Dec 08
I think the question of being her friend again depends on if she realised her mistake and apologised. But pls, if she apologises sincerely, give her a second chance. Thanks.
• United States
18 Dec 08
Yes I do agree to what you are saying. But that's the whole thing. This is the second time this has happened. I refuse to keep going through this endless cycle of betrayal and dishonestly. I will be an associate of some sort to her and that's about it I guess.
@tklich (391)
• United States
17 Dec 08
I have in fact been betrayed by someone that I believed to be one of my very closest friends. I don't know exactly why she did this, or if she knows that I know what she did. But it was 5 years or so ago when it all started. We had been friends for several years - went to middle and high school together, hung out all the time and became really close. I ended up getting pregnant, and about a year after my son was born we just kind of lost touch. My sons father ditched out before my son was even born, and a couple years after he was born my "friend" ended up marrying my son's father's cousin. So it's almost as if she's on "their side" now, that's how it seemed anyways. I found out that whatever I would confide in her about, as far as my son's father, she would run back and tell him everything I said about him, and vice versa. So she was just two-faced and tryign to get everyone to like her I guess. I'm still pretty confused why she is how she is, but maybe she's just jealous of other people, or has been miserable in her own life before, so she can't stand to see anyone have the slightest chance of being happier than she is. I definitely learned how to be more cautious of who I become close friends with, and what all I tell other people now.
• Kenya
18 Dec 08
I really feel for you, and I think you were really brave by keeping the pregnancy. The Lord will see you through and he'll be your strength and your guide. I have definitely learnt how to choose my friends too. But at the same time, I still try to be very friendly to people since I don't want to go around thinking everyone is a suspect. Just move on and be happy okay?
• Philippines
17 Dec 08
i was betrayed but until now i can't forgive maybe in time i will because i still remember what he had done to me until now. I prefer to be silent here because i hate to talk about it, its already a closed book for me because i'm moving on with my life now.
@twinklee (894)
• India
17 Dec 08
Hi, Ya i have been betrayed in both the cases. But if you were also, don't mind yaar, Take it easy :) If it is back biting think that you are more courageous and bold than your friend . Or if it was jealousy think you are smarter and raise your collars. Don't ever loose your mood for those kind of people. Always make it a point to njoy ur life... Take care..:))
• Kenya
18 Dec 08
Thanks for your advice Twinklee, it really helps.