can i get a morning off????

United States
December 19, 2008 9:04am CST
ok, at the risk of sounding like a terrible mom... do you ever just wish that you could have a morning like you did pre-kids? like sleeping til whenever (if you don't work in the a.m.), enjoying a cup of coffee while it's still hot, being able to just sit at the computer without being bothered, etc. don't get me wrong- i love my boys and i cannot imagine life without them. but sometimes i would just love a morning off from children and all to myself. is that bad? am i the only one? :)
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10 responses
@deebomb (15317)
• United States
20 Dec 08
I had 4 kids in 6 years so let me tell you there were any number of time I wished I could put them all on a shelf like dolls for a few hours. I loved my kids too but like every one else I did want some time to my self when I didn't have to go looking for them or have to separate them when they decided they all wanted to same thing at the same time. I think it's perfectly natural to want to get away form children now and again.
• United States
20 Dec 08
wow! i totally understand how you would need some time away! lol thanks for the response!
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@deebomb (15317)
• United States
20 Dec 08
Yes now they are all grown up and have kids of their own. Sometimes I really miss those days.
• Indonesia
20 Dec 08
no i dont think that's bad Fatmansommy, maybe lotz of moms were thinking n hoping like u did now, n i think its normal if u sometimes feels like that. maybe u can try to find the solution with ur husband, ask him to take care of the childs for a while maybe 1 day off, so u can be on ur own at least for a half day. tell him that u need some rest for a while, maybe he will help u. u just tired at a times =) n its normal..i hope u'll feel much better soon =)
• United States
20 Dec 08
my hubby does a good job of helping out when he comes home from work. i also work part-time 3 nights a week, so that helps a little just getting out of the house and away, even if it is to work. thanks for the response!
@wahmivy (778)
• Philippines
19 Dec 08
Hear, hear!!! :-D I'm with you and I only have one child thus far. Love my two-year-old daughter too, but I do find myself sometimes pining for the old days when I had the choice of being idle, lol. There hasn't been a day since I became a mother that I didn't wake up mentally listing and scheduling all the things that need to be done and a good chunk of the tasks involve my daughter. I'm not really complaining as I love being my daughter's primary caregiver, but I would appreciate a day off. :)
• United States
20 Dec 08
i just can't believe the things we take for granted before we have kids! little things like going to the bathroom without someone trying to get in! lol not that i would trade any of it, but like you said, some days you just want to be lazy and not have anyone to worry about but yourself. thanks!
@CRSunrise (2983)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Mommies definitely need a break once in a while. I know that while my husband was working, here recently, I was the one to get up with my daughter the get her ready for school. The only day I could really sleep in was on Fridays when my daughter didn't have school. I still didn't get to sleep in the much since I have a 16 month old, and it's not like he can take care of himself.
• United States
20 Dec 08
i truly believe that mothers need a break now and then in order to just stay sane! lol i tell my hubby that unless he wants me to have a breakdown then he better take the kids out for a while! lol he usually does this without my asking, though. thanks for the reply!
• United States
19 Dec 08
I think we all should deserve a break once a while and I don't think it is very greedy or deceiving of you. We all need some slack sometimes.
• United States
20 Dec 08
amen to that! :) thanks!
@Raven7317 (693)
• United States
19 Dec 08
ANY mom has to admit she's felt the same way, at some point! Don't worry, it's okay!! I have some issue lately with my 3 1/2 YO... He just can't seem to leave me alone! I'm a SAHM and I know I'm really his world, but ARG! Some days, I do feel really bad because I just want him to leave me alone... for 10 minutes! LOL It's very strange because it seems to be only when I'm in my office at the computer. We could be downstairs in the LR, he'll watch tv, play cars, colors whatever for hours... as long as I'm down there too and I don't even have to be involved with him. Same thing with his play room; he'll sit for hours and play trains, puzzles, VSmile, whatever... as long as I'm sitting in there too, again not even playing with him, just laying there. But the minute I get up and go into my office, all of a sudden, he's like "Mum, mum, mum, mum..." Drives me nuts! I have toys in my office for him to play with and he's always welcome to bring in anything, but for some reason, he'll then insist I have to play with him. I'm hoping Christmas will help as I bought him his first computer... maybe he's just facsinated with computer... who knows? Anyway, Yeah, it's tough, but worth it in the end. Keep your chin up and remember to make a full pot of coffee every morning! (I've yet to finish a full cup before it gets cold!)
• United States
20 Dec 08
yes, i went through that with mine, too. my 3 1/2 year-old has just recently gotten good with playing alone. he will go up to his his room and play with his superheroes or whatever. but my 1 year-old is such a mama's boy that he will not be away from me for long. it was nice at first... now it is just annoying! lol and i have yet to finish a cup of coffee before it gets cold, either! i guess that is just our fate being mothers... cold coffee! lol thanks!
@sunshine4 (8706)
• United States
19 Dec 08
Dont' worry. Some day your boys will be teenagers and they will sleep till noon. But of course by then your body will be conditioned to get up early so you won't be able to sleep in anyways:) Yes, I know what you are feeling. I love my weekends because I have my teens who sleep in if they aren't up for sporting events. And I have my 8 yr old daughter trained to not open my door until I have gotten up first. It has taken 20 yrs for this to happen in my house.
• United States
20 Dec 08
i know what you mean... even now if my boys sleep late, i sometimes will still be up before them because i am so used to getting up! lol sometimes it is nice, though, because then i can sit here and enjoy a hot cup of coffee and a few minutes of quiet! thank you!
• United States
19 Dec 08
No, there is nothing wrong with that. Everyone needs some time to themselves, even mommies. I have my son go to a childcare center one day a week so that I can have some time to myself. Before I tried that I used to let him stay up a little later than usual on friday nights so I could sleep in a little on saturday mornings. My other children are 13,11 and 9 so they are pretty self-sufficient....they only bother me to referree an argument. For my 3 yr old I may as well be the only person in the house!
• United States
20 Dec 08
that is a great idea, and one that i have thought of. we just don't have the money for that right now. but my mother-in-law takes one of them for me some days so i can get some peace! thanks for the response!
@Calais (10898)
• Australia
20 Dec 08
Of course thats not selfish, You need to have time off from time to time, its a good thing, recharges your batteries...lol..If you can organise it, go for it, you'll feel so much better within yourself..Although the whole time you'll be thinking about the boys..lol
@lingli_78 (12834)
• Australia
20 Dec 08
i don't have a child yet... but i can understand what you mean... sometimes i also want a day off by myself and i don't want anybody to disturb me including my hubby... i think it is a normal thing... we need some space as well every now and then even though we are a social being... that doesn't make you a bad mother... good luck... hopefully you will get your morning off... take care and have a nice day...