How will you help someone suffering from depression?

@flojever (404)
Philippines
December 19, 2008 9:13am CST
Hello everyone, I would like to know your thoughts on this. Have you tried giving out advice to someone who's depressed? A person close to me was depressed. He had been scarred by his painful past. He can't move on. He tried alright, but he just can't let go. The shadow of the past is always there to haunt him. I've always tried to help him, but it's not quite enough. I know there are best ways out there to help treat depression. Can you share? Thanks in advance.
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8 responses
• India
24 Dec 08
Depression is a mind disease. It is usually caused by an imbalance of chemicals in the brain. Sometimes, we refer to ourselves as being depressed when things go wrong. This is not the clinical form of depression, but both of these conditions can feel like the end of the world. The only way to avoid depression or really low times is to simply fight against it by surrounding yourself with good thoughts, experiences and people. Will it cure you of your depression? No, not technically. But, by surrounding yourself with a positive environment filled with positive energy, you may find that the effects that depression has on you is lessened. Only your doctor can help you overcome depression. But, by placing positiveness within your life, you may be able to lessen the effects depression has. This is never a reason not to see your doctor though. If you would like more information regarding avoiding depression you can seek out the knowledge that is available throughout the internet.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
21 Dec 08
Well, like others have said, they need to learn to forgive the ones who have harmed them, and learn to move on. If it is Severe abuse they have suffered, there is Counseling and Survivor groups. They could also find a Pastor or someone they can trust in as well to talk about it. Also their are many Medications and such that are out there that can help with this as well. For me, there was not really a medication that seemed to work that well, but through Prayer and a healing by God I have not been on any meds now for 10 1/2 yrs. For advice I can give you to give to them, is learn to take life One day at a time and learn to forget the past and live for today. It might take a long time but in time if they can learn to think positive things will improve for them as well.
@Gwapako_28 (2140)
• Philippines
20 Dec 08
Well, whatever reason he got why he feel that way, then u as someone to help must really know and can able to let him overcome the pain. I have too many bad past also and it really hurts me 100% and broke my heart into tiny pieces... It make me so depressed and i feel so hopeless for everything... Like i want to die and feeling to end my life... But then i realized why i feel this? then i knowing that i forgot to love myself... and i decided to fight the depression i feel and i divert those memories i had with that person... I didnt think the good times, instead i think the bad times i have with him... And most of all i have the ACCEPTANCE in my heart... Then i keep moving on...
@23uday (2997)
• India
20 Dec 08
Hi Yes its sad to know that someone close to us is in depression.First I would patiently to woes of my friends.Then after listening,I would give my friend valuable suggestions.In the initial state,I would ask my friend to forget the past and start thinking about the present and future.And ask him/her to read books which motivates them to lead better and positive life.Sorrows are part of life,they stay for sometime,and vanish after that.Life has to be lived to the fullest and not worrying about the woes. Life is beautiful. bye!!!!!!!!!!!
• United States
19 Dec 08
Even if you don't have an answer or is speak less when your in front of that person and you are afraid that you might make the situation worse, I believe you should at least tell that person that you are here for them and is here to listen. Here are a few stages of depression: [[[[ 1. Denial - Becoming occupied to avoid the situation and tries to prevent situations that will trigger emotional feelings pouring from them. 2. Anger - Taking the anger out of anyone they can get contact to. 3. Bargaining - Praying to God and say that they will do something if something happens. [[[[ Usually people repeat the 3 stages over a period of time, let them steam off and if they take anger on you should just take and try to agree and acknowledge what they think and not put down their anger. Saying simple things like "Just get over it" and etc will make the problems worst and using acknowledging wording such as I agree with what your saying and "Your completely right" will ease the depression a bit. 4. Acceptance - Accept the fact. Just make sure you tell the person that you are there for them no matter what and if someone is depressed, don't just try and avoid the person and make no contact with them, speak to them.
@hottysun (10)
• India
20 Dec 08
Firstly, I'll try to find out reason behind his/her depression.If possible I'll share my opinion about that topic which created depression in his/her mind.If topic is really painful , I'll try persuade his/her mind , by insisting him/her to think about other topics,so that , he/she can able to somewhat forget about that topic.This is from my side and by experience.
@syankee525 (6261)
• United States
19 Dec 08
i also suffer from depression and most of it came from my pass. the hell i lived through and dealt with. but one thing they need to do, is forgive those who hurted them in the pass, and let it go. won't forget it but need to say it was the pass, i need to let it go. and i need to forgive them as well. learning to do this is pretty hard i am not going to lie about it, i often thought people were out to get me. i do often talk with people who suffer from depression and i share what i went through and how i learn to deal with it. and i also will tell them need help get it before depression drags them in to deep. also i learned that there is other who have it alot worst then me, it could always be worst for me. best of luck to them and good luck to you. being there and listening to them is one big thing that do help but try to encourge them to see a doctor before it get too bad
@liisafiat (659)
• Latvia
19 Dec 08
Some time ago I have been suffering from depression. Might give some tips, but it won`t help if the person whom You are trying to help rejects Your help or constantly insists to stay in that stage of depression (because at some point it gives him protection, and makes him helpless and thus deserves `soft` treating from the others). 1. Show You care about him. Ask him how is he doing at school, work or in personal life. What did he do since You last met him? What has he achieved? 2. Take him out. Go to the theater or buy him concert tickets: he should go more often in the public, although a depressed person don`t enjoy public places very much...:( 3. Food. Lot`s of tasty food or drinks might bring him back the joy of life. 4. And don`t make him miserable, by taking too much care of his depression! He will only feel more horrible. Treat him NORMALLY: insult and criticize when it is necessary, say good words and compliments when he deserves them. Don`t become too soft or too hard on him because he is a `depressed` person.